First, I'd just like to say that this subreddit is really refreshing. It's inspiring and heartwarming to see everyone encouraging one another in this supportive, non-toxic community. I also appreciate anyone who takes the time to share their struggles, because it takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable and raw like that.
Here are some tips on how to believe in yourself that have helped me, and some I added in response to themes I've seen here. Maybe it will help some of you along your journey too.
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Ten Ways to Believe in Yourself
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1. Find what makes you special.
Some people think they have no gifts or strengths. I guarantee you this isn’t true. Sometimes you just have to do some soul-searching to find what makes you special. Usually, it’s the things that you are most passionate about and that give you the most joy. And truly, everyone is unique in their own way. There’s not a single person like you. If nothing else, find the beauty in that.
Do you have a role model? Anyone you look up to and admire? What if I told you that you are no less essential than the person you admire? The world needs what you have inside of you. More importantly, YOU need what you have inside of you. It is imperative for you to come alive. Believe this, because it's true.
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2. Invest in your strengths, not your limitations.
There are always things we can improve upon, things we haven’t developed, and things that don’t come naturally to us that may come naturally to someone else. It’s easy to feel inadequate when we solely focus on the ways in which we feel we fall short. But doing this does not foster self-confidence; it destroys it. It’s all about what you choose to focus on. You can choose to focus on and invest in your perceived limitations, or celebrate and invest in the ways in which you are gifted and strong. Bathe in awe and gratitude for the things you are capable of. Feel how amazing that is. This promotes relaxation and self-love in the body which is a game changer.
Stop setting up limitations for yourself. You are not "too old" or "too young." Says who? It's never too late to bloom. These are arbitrary rules you or society has created and you have fully embraced as true. Maybe out of a fear of starting, but not because they are true. You're the only one who gets to create and decide what limitations you will accept, and which ones you won't. Start viewing yourself as the limitless creator of your reality. If you have a pulse, guess what? You're here for a reason and a purpose.
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3. Don't judge your success by the external, material world.
Don't look to it as some measure of your worth. Success is not defined by things like money, attention, likes, titles, or social status. These are all illusions. If you are in your element, if you are in a state of flow, doing what you love to do, I guarantee you are making a difference even if you can't readily see it, and this is the true definition of success.
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4. Do one thing that scares you every day — even if it’s just a little thing.
I don’t mean something reckless, or something that is so terrifying that it will trigger you in an unhealthy way. I mean take a safe, confidence-boosting risk. It doesn’t have to be something huge, it can be something small, even if it’s just building up the courage to try something new. You’ll be amazed by how much conquering your tiny anxieties will build your self-confidence. You’ll see that you’re stronger and more capable than you ever thought you were, because your actions will be the evidence. It’s hard not to believe in yourself when you have hard proof of your bravery. And nothing beats getting to tell yourself “I did that, even though I was scared! I am stronger than my fears!”
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5. Don’t compare yourself to others, or some imagined, rigid mold you think you're supposed to fit into.
Your best should not be determined by another person’s best. You’re not in competition with anyone else. It’s just you against yourself. One person’s mountain will be another person’s hill. Your success should be defined by how hard something was for you to accomplish, not someone else.
Get rid of this idea that you're supposed to be at a certain place in life by a certain age, or that everyone but you has life all figured out. They don't. We're all just trying our best here to learn and grow and live our lives. There's no list that exists that says you failed in life because you don't know how to do x, y or z yet, or you're lacking in certain experiences. This places way too much unnecessary pressure on yourself. You know the saying, "You are a human being, not a human doing"? It applies here. So start with changing the way your heart beats (the way you feel), and the rest will come naturally.
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6. Don’t try to be perfect; approach things with an attitude of playfulness.
Perfection is an illusion that doesn’t exist. There is only your best. If you fear starting things because you fear they won’t be good enough, don’t try to be good. Simply try. When you try too hard to be perfect, you rob yourself of the joy that comes from the learning process and even from being messy and making mistakes.
Remember when you were a kid and you didn’t pay one thought to how good something was because you were so lost in the pleasure of play? Return to that state. Do something because it’s a new experience that will teach you something. You don’t become a master of something overnight. The point is to have fun expressing yourself. Life is hard enough as it is without us constantly censoring ourselves. Allow yourself the freedom that comes with raw, uninhibited self-expression.
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7. Change your perspective on failure.
Now let's talk about the dreaded "f" word: failure. Failure is not a dead end. At least not in the way we think it is. We tend to turn it into one - maybe as another manufactured limitation. Failure is your friend. It is an opportunity and a challenge. It is showing you where you need to adjust and evolve your approach. One person's failure is another person's "aha" moment. Try to view it as a necessary part of the process and journey. Without any obstacles, life wouldn't be much of an adventure anyway, and where would be the fun in that? The best things in life are so satisfying because you earned them through your continual effort. You proved to yourself that you didn't give up despite the setbacks.
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8. Remind yourself of the times when you doubted yourself and you turned out to be right.
Sometimes our mind has a way of turning against us. When we get stuck on a false belief about ourselves, it’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where we only look for past examples when we trusted ourselves and we turned out being wrong. It’s unlikely that you have been wrong in every scenario. Counter this false belief by looking for the ways in which you have also been right. This will help you build back trust in yourself.
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9. Surround yourself with people who believe in you.
Maybe it goes without saying, but too many people keep people in their lives who do nothing but constantly tear their self-esteem down, which is not to be confused with friends who offer constructive criticism and accountability. It can make you feel crazy to have someone doubt you constantly, and it’s easy to internalize those voices if you don’t have a strong sense of self yet.
That being said, be mindful of the people who you let influence you. If you can, surround yourself with people who really see you, know your gifts and beauty and can encourage you and remind you of those things when you fail to see them yourself. Other people aren’t meant to replace our own inner voice, but they can help us see ourselves better. People act as mirrors for us in that way.
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10. Improve your self-talk
Bouncing off the last point here - a lot of us wind up unconsciously internalizing destructive voices early in life -- whether it be a parent, a teacher, a bully or someone else. It can take time to heal from this and retrain the way we talk to ourselves, and you will need to be patient with yourself, but the main point here is that you're basically learning to parent yourself.
Talk to yourself as you would if you were your own child. If you don't like this tone or approach, then talk to yourself as if you were your own friend -- gentle and compassionate. Validate your own feelings. For example, you're having a bad day, and you made a mistake, instead of beating yourself up by calling yourself mean names, you can say something to yourself like, "I see you're having a bad day, and made a mistake. It's because you've been under a lot of pressure lately. It's okay. You need to relax and take a breath."
It might sound simple or silly, but the way you talk to yourself can make all the difference between how you feel about yourself which in turn, can redirect your life.

I have a steel series headset and I've used sonar to make my game sound better but I cant tell the difference between sound coming from my left, right, front or back. They all sound the exact same

Okay so I may have fucked up and I need some help.
So I got this Kit of Corsair Vengeance LPX DDR4 3600MHz CL-18 2x16GB modules and stuck them into my PC.
Prior to the switch my PC was running the following:

• Ryzen 5 5600X
• Asus ROG Strix B550-i (ITX) - BIOS ver. 2803
• Crucial Ballistix DDR4 3200MHz CL-16 2x8GB modules
• Samsung 980 Pro 1TB
• Asus TUF RTX3060 GAMING OC 12GB
• Corsair SF600 600W PSU
• Corsair H115i (280mm) AIO cooler
• Microsoft Windows 11 Home (x64) Build 22621.1778 (22H2) - Insider Preview Build

I swapped in the Corsair memory modules and saw that they were stable at first and then enabled DOCP after.
Then I decided to run Windows update (on Win11 Insider Preview Build). I haven't touched my rig in a long while so some security updates and the April and May cumulative update previews queued up. I installed them one after the other restarting between each.
After restarting for the 2nd time, I had one more update to do but as soon as I got into windows, I had an unsual pop-up from "asus_framework.exe" saying that "Can't open AsiO3.sys - Failed with error code 5: Access Denied". After that, I had the first GSOD. My PC restarted, got back into Windows, and within a minute GSOD happened again.
After getting into windows again, I tried to go into Windows Update and paused the update (Pause for 1 Week). The GSOD didn't happen this time. I went into the Recovery menu and tried to roll back the last Quality updated that Win11 updated and after a few minutes I had the last one removed. I booted back into windows and everything seemed fine now.
Each GSOD stated a different cause (one was with the Memory Management, another was something to do with Start-up, etc); it was all over the place. I went into my Bios and undid the DOCP profile by setting everything to Auto and booted back into windows. Everything seemed to be fine then.
So I went into Windows Update again and wondered if I ran the Windows Update this time it would go. Everything downloaded and installed but needed a restart. I restarted and as soon as the prompt said 1% GSOD happened again. And this went on for several cycles and eventually it booted me into the UEFI screen for trouble shooting and recovery. I tried running the troubleshooting diagnostics but it said "Startup Repair couldn't repair your PC". At this point I was contemplating nuke-and-pave.
I don't want to believe it's something with the new memory modules I stuck in, but after I switched back to my Crucials the GSOD-ing stopped. It's been running stable since (well stable enough to get into windows and browse the internet for WTF was causing this.
I looked at the kits I have and they're labeled

• CM4X16GC3600C18K2D-CN
• DDR4 16GB 3600MHz
• 18-22-22-42, 1.35V
• ver3.34
• S/N: 220107041980437 & 220107041980438 respectively on each module

I got the modules online and shipped from China. The Corsair copyright on the back says 2015 and the box packaging says supports Intel Inside Core and Core i7. I'm starting to get the impression that these modules are old (?) and aren't compatible with my Ryzen platform or Windows (man, I dunno?).
I also realize that Running Windows Insider Preview Builds may be complicating things and I fully accepted the possibility of that being the main issue at hand. I have changed too many variables and hadn't done my due diligence in systematically vetting the updates and upgrades.
The collective wisdom of the masses would be greatly appreciated. Please help me. What's wrong and what's going on?
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Sidenote: After one update I started getting the (!) notification on Windows Security saying that "Local Security Authority Protection is off. Your Device may be vulnerable"; I clicked it to go to the setting supposedly but it says the Page is not available and that there's no supported features and is not available.

I get that paying (cash) for a cabin upgrade is completely non-refundable, and you're pretty much out of luck if you need to change your travel plans, meaning, you kiss those dollars goodbye that you paid for the upgrade.
My question is whether the same is true when you go through the "Change Flight" workflow. As an example, if I have a Premium Plus round-trip itinerary and want to change the return to Polaris, and I go through the "Change Flight" workflow to pick the Polaris/Business return, is that "change" (or, worse, the whole itinerary) in the same unfortunate situation as having done the cash upgrade? Or is it more akin to any other purchase (from scratch), which is to say, if you're 1k, you can make changes for free (paying the difference between the old/new fare of course).
Hope my question makes sense.

557 day 5 combined HANTEO sales (all versions) for A:FrU. Decent sales for a Sunday.
For those wondering about the difference between GAON and HANTEO, here's a diagram to illustrate the differences. In short, GAON measures total number of copies printed while HANTEO takes the sales numbers from a selected number of stores. Thus the GAON number will always be higher as it also includes unsold copies and copies sold by non-Hanteo retailers.

Day	Limited	Regular	Platform	Combined Sales (Daily)	Sales (Cumulative)	Week (change)
1 (230524)	12867	14843	4425	32135	32135	1
2 (230525)	1781	15678	528	17987	50122
3 (230526)	649	963	2316	3928	54050
4 (230527)	32	370	21	423	54473
6 (230528)	36	508	13	557	55030

Like the title, it’s time to reconsider the purpose of certain online communities unless they are strictly moderated to exclude repetitive mainstream ideas and shallow talking points. By maintaining such spaces, we inadvertently discourage deep thinking and thoughtful articulation of viewpoints.
There’s a distinction between holding an unpopular opinion, such as advocating for a nationwide bidet policy and banning toilet paper, and holding an opinion disliked by others simply because it aligns with superficial perspectives prevalent in outrage-driven media and relies on a lack of understanding of information.
Whether this is left, right, or center—we all do it. I grew up on a farm, joined the army, and then moved to various diverse communities in liberal cities. There are so many misunderstandings about so many things and yet the experience of my Hispanic urban friend wasn’t too dissimilar to my white rural father and yet they both hold starkly different political views.
If we could foster moderated discussions about politics, we wouldn’t need subreddits solely dedicated to “true unpopular opinions” or “unpopular opinions.” Some things we would probably find align between each each other more often than the parties demonstrate. It doesn’t always have to be all or nothing.
The challenge lies in one side feeling victimized for holding what they perceive as normal and traditional ideas, while the other feels they represent traditionally marginalized groups and grows frustrated and angry due to the inability to convey different perspectives and complex ideas effectively to the other side—admittedly even struggling to discuss and understand their own ideas at times.
The emotion the comes from the dynamic shuts down any discussion. If both sides approached discussions with open minds and compassion for their fellow countrymen and neighbors, we might discover better solutions to our shared problems.
Example: why can’t trades be offered in a university setting allowing individuals to do both? Segregating them creates an artificial hierarchy based on the perception that trades are for the less intelligent when that isn’t true. If we merged the two, then English majors can learn welding and welders could learn coding much easier. It would also boost enrollment and resource availability for all parties involved.
The problem is that neither side feels truly heard, and everything seems to become personal and binary. Politics and the issues we care about are far more intricate than a simple dichotomy of right and wrong; they are intertwined with identity, security, and life experiences.
Before internet spaces, you might have became friends or talked because you’re both big basketball fans and met at stadium. You bumped into each other and got to talking about going to the same school and the weird overlapping connections. These personal interactions helped to moderate the echo chamber effect that isn’t as easy online.
We must seek out spaces where we can set aside our tendency to label others as bad, immoral, or stupid and genuinely attempt to understand their side, even if initially they may be hesitant to see ours. There are so many instances of extremists engaging with people who they hated and coming to change their perspective based on one person’s patience in explaining things to them.
Tldr; to promote better discussion and use, groups like this should restrict mainstream ideas that should be posted in regular politics pages.

I had a basic Ipad 2020 and chose to spend 1200€ on an Ipad Pro 2022 just for Diablo: Immortal. Having 8GB RAM and a graphics processor equivalent to desktop PC Geforce 770 GTX (GPU power relative to the 11” screen size) really made an enjoyable difference. I believe this was a much better choice for me personally than spending my money on legendary gem resonance in the game.
Benefits:

• Game never crashes on Ipad Pro. (because of more RAM)
  
• Ultra graphics + image sharpening + 60 fps. (Basic Ipad 2020 can run at those settings for 1-2 minutes but then begins to thermal-throttle and drops to 30 fps, so the only real difference here is 30 vs 60 fps or image sharpening vs no image sharpening. However, in Vault and battleground PvP image sharpening is automatically disabled anyway, so the Ipad Pro has this advantage mainly in PvE)
  
• Overall smooth performance even during big player events. (dozens of players and monsters, lots of effects on screen)
  
• Somewhat larger screen with very narrow bezels. (display area of 11” Ipad Pro 2022 is 22.9 cm wide x 16.0 cm high, whereas display area of 10.2” Ipad 2020 is 20.7 cm wide x 15.5 cm high)
  
• Slightly better control interface layout on Ipad Pro. (on basic Ipad auto-navigate button in Diablo: Immortal somehow overlaps with skill pad because skills are lower than on Ipad Pro)
  
• Anti-glare screen coating. (This is a minor issue but it can be helpful at reducing light glaring if there is a light source behind you)
  
• Ipad Pro will remain if quitting D:I for Diablo 4 or other games. (you can’t take resonance with you if you quit)
  
• Access to Divinity 2: Original Sin. (the best RPG for PC in 2017 and the most demanding existing mobile game, requires Ipad Pro because it is graphically identical to the PC version and is locked to run only on ultra graphics @ 60 fps because there is no way to adjust graphics settings in the game)
  
• With True Tone you can make Diablo: Immortal more yellowish, may feel nicer than the bluish hue of the game without True Tone. (True Tone feature came only to 2021 9th generation basic Ipads, it automatically adjusts colour temperature of the screen based on your surroundings... usually gives the screen yellow instead of white/blue hue)
  

In case someone is wondering about the difference between 11” Ipad Pro Retina and 12.7” Ipad Pro XDR Retina: XDR Retina allows 1,000 or even 1,600 nits of brightness at small window sizes (a bit like in modern HDR1000 certified PC displays), while 11” Retina is only max 600 nits (but both displays use IPS panels). If I remember correctly, basic Ipads have 500 nits displays.
Ipad Pro 11” 2022 battery from 100% to 0% (Diablo: Immortal ultra graphics, 60 fps, image sharpening, 50% screen brightness): ~ 6 hours
Ipad Pro 11” 2022 battery from 100% to 0% (Divinity 2: Original Sin, ultra graphics and 60 fps, 50% screen brightness: ~ 2.3 hours
Battery lasted roughly the same six hours when running Diablo: Immortal on 10.2” Ipad 2020 at 50% screen brightness, 30 fps/image sharpening or 60 fps/no image sharpening.
I hope this text helps someone who is deciding on device upgrade for Diablo: Immortal, just like I was half a year ago.

All of my driving is leisure so despite touring the country I could make 20k miles a year work as ill mostly be staying in different camp grounds for weeks at a time.
I refuse to drive a car out of warranty especially for something like this where I'm pulling my house and office.
So my options are buy a nice certified pre owned suv with an unlimited mile warranty that lasts roughly the life of the loan (lexus, mercedes both offer this not sure about others), or lease literally any vehicle since it will stay under warranty.
Here's my thought on the lease. Given that I'm going to be beating the shit out of it towing all the time as well as idling the engine as a glorified generator for power (honestly gas to idle a car all night in between camp grounds to power the RV seems cheaper than a solar setup in the long run), 25 cents a mile over at lease end seems like a bargain even if it's thousands.
Why?
A few reasons. For one, engine hours aren't monitored in the lease. I'd never treat a car I owned that way but for a lease it seems like a cheap way to deal with high power needs and avoid paying campground fees with a guaranteed repair if it causes engine problems. Realistically it won't anyway since I'm not keeping the car longer than 3 years and police cars run pretty much 24 7 and they're in service about the same amount of time.
Secondly, based on the abuse to the car, i wouldn't want to own or worry about selling it at lease end. So it seeks like 25 cents is a bargain when the alternative is gambling on the depreciation given an unpredictable market.
Also, if the difference between the trade in value and lease end buy out is less than the mileage overage then I could just buy it out and sell it to the dealer.
What do you guys think? Keep in mind I am absolutely averse to fixing cars and breakdowns and also prefer to have a nice newer car aesthetically.

I’ve bought both over the years, and haven’t noticed any differences in taste. They seem to be comparable in terms of the nutrition label and ingredients. The cost is an obvious difference. I suppose I should ask a crew member.
Sorry for the typo! I can’t seem to edit the post title. 😖

1. Are there any specific professions in your world that have established guilds to protect their interests and regulate their respective industries?
   
2. How do these guilds function within your world? Do they have strict hierarchies, democratic systems, or other unique organizational structures?
   
3. What are the primary goals and objectives of these guilds
   
4. Are there any conflicts or rivalries between different guilds or Do they compete for resources, membership, or influence within your world?
   
5. How do aspiring individuals join these guilds? Are there specific criteria, initiation rituals, or apprenticeships required to gain membership?
   
6. Do these guilds hold any significant power or influence within society? Are they able to shape legislation, control trade routes, or exert authority over their respective professions?
   

Hey everyone!
I've asked five different employees between two different stores, and no one could answer this, so I figured I'd ask you all. You all seem friendly and welcoming.
I'm a customer and I have a Lowe's credit card.
I would like to purchase an electric range; I would also like to take advantage of the 0% and pay it off in about 10 months.
What happens at say month 4 if I decide to go back to Lowe's and make another purchase of something random for $130 and this time, I decide I want the 5% discount.

• Can I then go online and make a payment and pay off only the new purchase of $130?
  
• Or does my next payment automatically cover the new purchase (assuming I pay more than $130)?
  
• Or does the $130 purchase go to the back of the line and sits there until I pay off the range?
  

In other words, how do I ensure I can pay both the original transaction at 0% for 12 months and pay the new transaction right away without incurring any interest?
/side rant: I can't be the only one who's thought of this, who's been in this situation, right? There have to be other people who've taken advantage of 0% for 12 months, and then needed to use the card again a few months later. I didn't want to be the guy asking for a manager for a question which to me seems is very simple. Maybe I just happen to come across five brand new employees.

After hearing the group praise Bly Manor I gave it a watch before watching their reaction/discussions of it because I usually agree on their viewpoints. But I don’t fully understand their high praise of this show. To praise Bly for a moment, the cinematography is very impressive, the horror is done well, and the characters are compelling and well written, but the story attached to the show is okay at best, until the ending which throws a wrench in the whole thing. I would’ve given it a 7/10 before the last episode which brought it down to a 5 maybe 6. I wouldn’t want to rewatch it. Like I said, It does some things very well, but it has great character work in a otherwise generic story/ plot. I don’t want to make this post an EFAP length going into details of why unless people ask, but I am wondering if others felt the same about the show.
P.S- In my scale 5/10 is average with higher scores each getting harder to achieve, so the difference between a 1 and a 2, is much close than a 8 and a 9

Only Europe Please - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will permanently be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone interested in being my friend - not the whole world which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me avice better block me
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make any time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give you one word answer and ask you another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different🙂What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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Do you ever feel like an option? Like a stranger to others despite knowing them for months or years & talking to them quite often? Like there's always something and someone more important than you and you just..don't fit in and no matter what you do - your effort is never appreciated?
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and without partners..Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them ( which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (Acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others on a daily basis mainly because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..Why I'd rather talk to people from my continent? Well..Mainly because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - Especially given most people are always available on social media sites & keep their phones in a pocket.Once you receive & open my message - get back to me (If you're as serious as I am & really need a true friend) waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticising people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have non important conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason.All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people really are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk daily? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionallyI'm not trying to sound rude - I just don't want to meet new people and get emotionally attached - only to end up being left alone after weeks or months of daily conversations.I'm sick of that never ending story and always meeting people who ghost me without a single word (even if everything seems to be ok) or people who "change priorities" over time & become like strangers…I don't want to go through this ever again.Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :)It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you. 🙂
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I'm not really interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on some question or? Start talking only about themselves.. I love conversations with people refering to every part of my messages - not just some question.
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• No dirty messages PLEASE.I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. No NSWF profiles..I always check people's profiles (Even comment history) - To avoid guys,trying to get inappropriate photos from adult women or? flirt with them & If your comment history is full of rude comments - you and I wouldn't get along! I can't stand people who judge other people and use vulgar words to describe them or? Make fun of them.Respect is very important
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• If both (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country ) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just simply don't want to talk to a person from the same country - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to practice your english
• Please only adult people 18-36 age range (I'm 27)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even though It is a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - I think it's ok to not respond to someone's first or second message If people think they wouldn't get along! I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversation and seeing people changing priorities but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real If I'm really interested in someone's message - I respond within a matter of minutes - max 6 hours (If I'm in bed - just sleeping) you won't even hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I really was too busy to make time for others - I wouldn't be here. I either want to talk to someone..or not.I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike some people)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - just like me - just to describe your emotions through text. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough I just don't like emotionless messages.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively.
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you ) before moving to Discord or some other app
• Time response matters to me a lot! It matters to me whether I get a message back after one hour,three hours,6 hours or..12 hours and even..after a couple of days..And If you're another person just looking for one day conversation and then? "Disappear" for some amount of time longer than one day to come back and apologize me for being busy - don't even leave me a message.I just want to be honest with you from the start.I'm interested only in daily conversations
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Why can’t you see any of my interests listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest,talkative,understanding,caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but in my personal opinion,common interests are important mainly when you want to find a gaming buddy (for example) or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's interests – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life– way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you!I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced.
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Both people wanting to be friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I higly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk everyday to be friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations with someone also interested in talking dailyIf you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night)I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new.You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that's something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance. But others see it as false hope. Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're only responsible for ourselves - not for others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on,forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because a therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you.Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out & feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else"Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others.Empathy is everything
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Our world needs more peace 🤗 I've seen a lot of rude comments on reddit.If you don't agree with me - OK but please don't criticize me + Not everyone is here to ask for advice.Listen people - I know how different my post is & I know It won't be easy for me to find what or rather who - I'm looking for BUT I always want to be myself instead of pretending someone I'm not and lying to others.I know It would be easier if (like others) I had less expectations but I I know what I want and honestly? If my post was different..I wouldn't be me.Even If I won't meet a person I'd get along with - that's ok! but don't give me any unsolicited advice because I wouldn't change for someone who doesn't even know me pretty much as I wouldn't want to change anyone else.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.I'm not here to argue with anyone and to make fun of others.
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abrreviations,If you don't need an emotional connection,If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship,to be natural which is why I want you to contact me If your needs are the same - I don't want you to try to change yourself only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I know It's possible to find what I'm looking for as I had conversations with people looking for exactly the same thing and being nice to me - I want to believe in my luck again as I had it a few times on reddit - I've recently lost someone I thought could be a friend of mine (such a perfect match) and I'm sad but I want to finally be happy again & find someone always wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals and what is the most important to me? To find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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No comments please.Only Private messages and chat requests.I don't really like public conversations and I also do not respond to comments so If you want to send me a message just do it without saying "You can DM me" + I'm online almost all the time and yes - I am very selective but If I had to choose between having another (new) acquaintance and being in the same situation as I currently am - I'd always choose second option.I don't need more people to talk to every now and then and any chit chat so please think twice before you decide to send me a message

Only Europe Please - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will permanently be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone interested in being my friend - not the whole world which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me avice better block me
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make any time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give you one word answer and ask you another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different🙂What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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Do you ever feel like an option? Like a stranger to others despite knowing them for months or years & talking to them quite often? Like there's always something and someone more important than you and you just..don't fit in and no matter what you do - your effort is never appreciated?
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and without partners..Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them ( which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (Acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others on a daily basis mainly because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..Why I'd rather talk to people from my continent? Well..Mainly because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - Especially given most people are always available on social media sites & keep their phones in a pocket.Once you receive & open my message - get back to me (If you're as serious as I am & really need a true friend) waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticising people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have non important conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason.All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people really are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk daily? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionallyI'm not trying to sound rude - I just don't want to meet new people and get emotionally attached - only to end up being left alone after weeks or months of daily conversations.I'm sick of that never ending story and always meeting people who ghost me without a single word (even if everything seems to be ok) or people who "change priorities" over time & become like strangers…I don't want to go through this ever again.Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :)It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you. 🙂
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I'm not really interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on some question or? Start talking only about themselves.. I love conversations with people refering to every part of my messages - not just some question.
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• No dirty messages PLEASE.I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. No NSWF profiles..I always check people's profiles (Even comment history) - To avoid guys,trying to get inappropriate photos from adult women or? flirt with them & If your comment history is full of rude comments - you and I wouldn't get along! I can't stand people who judge other people and use vulgar words to describe them or? Make fun of them.Respect is very important
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• If both (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country ) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just simply don't want to talk to a person from the same country - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to practice your english
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• Please only adult people 18-36 age range (I'm 27)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even though It is a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - I think it's ok to not respond to someone's first or second message If people think they wouldn't get along! I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversation and seeing people changing priorities but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real If I'm really interested in someone's message - I respond within a matter of minutes - max 6 hours (If I'm in bed - just sleeping) you won't even hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I really was too busy to make time for others - I wouldn't be here. I either want to talk to someone..or not.I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike some people)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - just like me - just to describe your emotions through text. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough I just don't like emotionless messages.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively.
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you ) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• Time response matters to me a lot! It matters to me whether I get a message back after one hour,three hours,6 hours or..12 hours and even..after a couple of days..And If you're another person just looking for one day conversation and then? "Disappear" for some amount of time longer than one day to come back and apologize me for being busy - don't even leave me a message.I just want to be honest with you from the start.I'm interested only in daily conversations
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Why can’t you see any of my interests listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest,talkative,understanding,caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but in my personal opinion,common interests are important mainly when you want to find a gaming buddy (for example) or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's interests – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life– way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you!I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced.
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Both people wanting to be friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I higly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk everyday to be friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations with someone also interested in talking dailyIf you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night)I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new.You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that's something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance. But others see it as false hope. Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're only responsible for ourselves - not for others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on,forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because a therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you.Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out & feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else"Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others.Empathy is everything
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Our world needs more peace 🤗 I've seen a lot of rude comments on reddit.If you don't agree with me - OK but please don't criticize me + Not everyone is here to ask for advice.Listen people - I know how different my post is & I know It won't be easy for me to find what or rather who - I'm looking for BUT I always want to be myself instead of pretending someone I'm not and lying to others.I know It would be easier if (like others) I had less expectations but I I know what I want and honestly? If my post was different..I wouldn't be me.Even If I won't meet a person I'd get along with - that's ok! but don't give me any unsolicited advice because I wouldn't change for someone who doesn't even know me pretty much as I wouldn't want to change anyone else.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.I'm not here to argue with anyone and to make fun of others.
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abrreviations,If you don't need an emotional connection,If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship,to be natural which is why I want you to contact me If your needs are the same - I don't want you to try to change yourself only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I know It's possible to find what I'm looking for as I had conversations with people looking for exactly the same thing and being nice to me - I want to believe in my luck again as I had it a few times on reddit - I've recently lost someone I thought could be a friend of mine (such a perfect match) and I'm sad but I want to finally be happy again & find someone always wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals and what is the most important to me? To find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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No comments please.Only Private messages and chat requests.I don't really like public conversations and I also do not respond to comments so If you want to send me a message just do it without saying "You can DM me" + I'm online almost all the time and yes - I am very selective but If I had to choose between having another (new) acquaintance and being in the same situation as I currently am - I'd always choose second option.I don't need more people to talk to every now and then and any chit chat so please think twice before you decide to send me a message

I had a friend who I met in the first day of college he seems to be nice and i got along with him so well because he has the same attitude as one of my friend who I met in first day of my kinder garden. I am person who don't trust a lot of people i see so i usually don't keep more contacts but he seems to be trustworthy to me. Our first semester was online and even the exams was online and he scored the highest rank in the class among the computer engineering and electrical engineering students and I scored second i was so happy for him and also happy about my grades as i was an average student in school and it was a lot for me. And from second semester the classes were offline and i scored 1st among the two departments and he scored second and the next time I met him he wasn't happy for me as i was happy for him he said my mom I mad on me because he got 2nd rank and then i said it's just 2% it isn't a huge decrease. Ranks apart we got to know each other more and i used to share everything with him. During my 3rd semester I was getting use to the new environment and i also was performing better i academically slowly my classmates started to know about my background I studied in the most prestigious school in the town and i was better in coding and working with computers because They used to teach most of the concepts in school. I got first among all the computer engineering students and I got 2nd place in a technical symposium conducted at a state level in which i participated with my friend. I was proud of myself. Later that evening one of the staffs wanted to meet me and my friend to congratulate for securing 2nd in the technical symposium. The staff didn't care much about my friend he was giving more attention to me than him i saw a sudden change of expression on his face when the staff started to appreciate me it lasted only a fraction of a second I knew he didn't like it so after we left the staff room I changed the topic to something else. Things went pretty normal for some days and one day he wanted to know a lot of things about me he asked about how much money my dad makes and how big my house is i also asked what his dad does. He replied my parents are divorced i don't know where my dad is and his mom is a government officer and she was the one raising him and his younger sister he had a elder brother who went with his father. I felt guilty asking that question and said sorry i didn't know he was ok with it. I felt bad for the rest of my day. After a long time i got into a fight with a person in my class. The issue got bigger and bigger and he wanted to beat me in a forest on the way to my house. One of the neighbour saw me and helped me out of the situation the next day my neighbour and my parents came to the college to talk to the staff in the college about this issue those guys got suspended from college. My friend started acting weird the next day he was mad at me and acting passive aggressive. This kind of behaviour was new to me from his side the people in my class started asking me about the issue and i explained the situation everyone understood the situation and said don't worry we are on your side the college administration was also supportive to me except my friend who I trusted. In the fourth comming days he was speaking to me on a ruder way he was listening to what I say and he was sharing information to the people who were involved in a fight with me one day the college administration called me and asked why did you ask your friends to call the person who got into a fight with me and fight with him the college administration said we did all the things to protect you and the guy's parents ( the one who got into the fight ) are saying that you threatened him during his detention period. I didn't know what was going on and i was totally unaware of this situation the administration said you asked your friend to call the guy and threaten him but i didn't ask him to do so he was acting weird to me for the past week. Also the administration warned me to stay away from my friend later that day i confronted my friend he didn't accept the he did it and then i said the college administration said what you did we got into an argument with him and asked why did you do that he didn't accept his mistake I didn't want to take the argument even further. After the detention period of the guys who fought me was over my friend joined those people i didn't know why he wasn't close to those people but now he is with them I was not able to process the things that was going on. A few days later i gifted my friend a pen he refused to accept the gift and then kept the gift in his table he threw it away i was so sad to see that and i gave it to another person he accepted it. He started distancing me and i needed to teach him a lesson i didn't speak to him the next day and then he joined the people who fought me i wanted him to know more about those people and he did. He started hanging out with them and I made new friends. He was constantly stamped on by the people and got beaten up by them but he had no way to get out his mother started to know about his new friends and his mother knew about those people his mother said don't ever enter the house if you are going to hang out with them he had no option other than hanging out with them because he had no other friends and everyone knew about his behaviour. A semester passed by my life was down a bit my mother was sick and i didn't go to college for a month due to my mothers illness. And when I started going to college my friend's asked to talk to him and i did game a second chance as i depressed i shared some things to him thinking that he has changed but he wasn't he wanted to know about my families financial situation because my mother hospital bill was a lot he wanted to know how we manage it i didn't share anything in detail. He was raised by a single mother and she was terrible at financial management his mother went into a lot of debt as we wear on our last semester we were planning for our higher education. I was trying to get into to top colleges he also has an ambition to get into top colleges like me but since his mother was in a lot of debt and she has to pay for 2 children's college fees so she said i won't be able to pay the fees in the top universities. My parents was also has less money after my mothers treatment but the situation got better and my parents are able to afford to fees in top universities. But day by day his mothers debt grew bigger and his mother is in a situation to sell their house to pay oftge debt. Since my family was doing well he was very suspicious about how my dad makes so much money. He started asking things to me like " your mothers was in the hospital for a long time and the bill should be a lot" i said yes it has been a rough time. Then he said does your dad even make enough money to feed your family. No one has ever asked me this he said to other friends that I am poor and his dad doesn't even make enough money for them to eat but he just hides everything. One of my other friends said he is talking bad about you behind your back. I didn't talk about my families financial situation until he started asking it to me every day. Only then he came to know my dad has a finance company and several other businesses. I saw a sudden change in his facial expression. Only then he started to truly know about my family. He was still not convinced he started to say that same things to others that I am poor just to put me in a lower position than him but others know who I am so they didn't care about what he speaks. His envy got bigger when he saw my cousin dropped me in college in a Porsche he started asking me things like his he really your cousin and I said yes he asked does your cousin know you and one of my friend said " he literally dropped him off didn't you see him how does someone drop him if he doesn't know him " and then he asked me is the people you are living with your real parents he said" no way that they are your real parents you should have been adopted go asked people who adopted you. I said just because I have things that you don't have dosint mean that I am adopted. He even went to an extent to fight me just because I a financially better than him. And i stopped talking to him. Now i just taught about it And was thinking how people change when I met him at the first day of college he was a completely different person who was scared to talk to others by the time we are about to leave the college he has changed into a completely different person from them i started to share less things to the people i meet. I maintain a safe distance between other people and me. Don't trust the people who are near to you they are your friends and they are also your enemy

Hi! I'm sorry if my post isn't as nice looking at the others, but I hope you like my idea! I enjoy world/story building and Black Clover! I'm looking for someone to be either Julius, Fuegoleon, or Nozel to go along with an OC of mine. Since they're side characters, we basically have to build our own story anyway!
While away on a mission, he finds a strange looking woman battered and all alone. He gets a strange feeling that he can't leave her there.
Some type of arranged marriage with Fuegoleon or Nozel to help strengthen the bond with another kingdom.
Another idea I have is an alternate universe where Julius is his own person and my OC tries to help him take down his siblings.
Those are 3 ideas that I have, but I prefer we build a plot together!
I'm looking for a longterm roleplay partner who is literate, 3rd person, and detailed. I usually match my partners length. I'm fine with doubling so we can both get someone we want. I need my partner and all characters to be 18+ since this roleplay will get explicit at times, but thats not the focus. I prefer a mix of romance/slice of life/action to keep it interesting. I'm happy to discuss any and all other aspects with you! We can go along with the anime or make something completely new. The romance between them will be kind of a slowburn. I'd like for us to build a world we're both happy with. You need to have discord.
I have about 8 years of roleplay experience (back when IG and kik were really popular so starting in 2012) and am trying to return to it. I'm 23F and my timezone is +1 CST but I'm fine with any time difference. I'm a SAHM so I understand life gets busy and you can't respond all day. Just also let me know ahead of time if you'll be unavailable for an extended period of time. Feel free to dm me!

Being out of Christianity and church, there are so many thoughts and habits I’ve forgotten.
It baffles me how Christians think if they tell someone the Jesus/God loves them it would magically impact of inspire them. And it connects to the idea that just being nice and praying for someone will change someone when in certain cases that’s pretty unhealthy or worst dangerous. No matter how you do it, people have to change for themselves, something magic affirmations can’t fix.
And it doesn’t help with the ignorance why people left the faith or isn’t interested.
Christians are learning how to deal with certain behaviors or situations from a time where people had very little information about psychology, neurodivergency, and mental health. For example the idea that children are maliciously being disobedient or if a r**p victim doesn’t get help when they’ve call it or was threatened not to say anything then the predator is not at fault and it was consensual.

HE400se on AliExpress for about 60 pounds (Uk). Cheap enough for a gamble? Only exp. with any planers is Fostex T50rp (which I love). Read there is a difference between international versions, but seems cheap enough for a blind buy. Any owners (specific from AliExpress or Chinese purchase). TIA

My daughter is almost 11 months old and due to formula shortages has been on a couple different formulas.
First she was on Nestle GoodStart (Soothe and regular) before there was a recall and it disappeared from the shelves.
Then we switched to Parent’s Choice Omega and she took that fine. It was great - way cheaper than Nestle products (half the price!) and readily available.
Until it wasn’t. Between my last purchase and now (2.5 weeks) it’s disappeared from Walmart shelves. President’s Choice and Kirkland are also hard for me to find. Doesn’t help that I don’t have a Costco membership.
I switched her back to Nestle Good Start, but stage 2 because that’s all I can find. She’ll take half a bottle (4oz) before it’s a knock down, drag out fight to get her to eat more.
She’s tried Similac a couple of times and started screaming after a few sips, so that’s a non-starter.
She’s on solids a few times a day but it’s also a struggle to get her to eat everything I give her. A good portion of it still ends up on the floor. The dog eats very well when the high chair comes out!
What do?