TL;DR at bottom.
I am of the generation that was told “you can do anything you set your mind to!”, “follow your dreams!”, etc. and while I’m old enough now to understand that there are a lot of barriers and systemic problems that stop people from following their dreams, I still hold on to a little shred of hope that I can achieve my life goals. I’ve managed to succeed in accomplishing some big life goals so I’m not devoid of hope. However, as my goals became a little less “mainstream”, I noticed more doubt and pushback from people when discussing my life plan. When that happens, I get little seeds of doubt in my own mind despite how passionate I am about achieving my dreams.
Backstory: My Partner and I have lived in the county in which we were both born. Never lived out of the state (in the US). We lost some loved ones during the pandemic. Others moved away. I started working remotely and realized we can live wherever we want. We don’t have to stay here. We want to leave the west coast for the east coast. (We have done our homework. Have flown out repeatedly to where we plan to live. Calculated costs. Etc. I’m a project planner. Spontaneity is not in my vocabulary.)
In our discussions about moving, we’ve broken down our ultimate goals into phases with phase one being “if this is all we accomplish, that is enough for me.” The remaining phases would just be icing on the cake.
Phase One: Buy our dream property.
We love being outdoors. Physically, mentally, we are people that crave green trees, gentle rains, nature sounds, and solitude among nature. We want to buy a house with a large area of wooded land. We want to have a garden (not feasible currently), let our dogs run to their heart’s content, and go for a hike whenever we want. If that is what the reminder of my life is, I will be as happy as a clam.
Phase two: Build and share. (Small business)
My partner has a background in homesteading/construction/set building and design. We want to build some primitive campsites, a yurt, small cabin on the property. Obviously we won’t be using these all the time. I want to offer them up for friends and family when they visit as well as putting them on HipCamp for vacation rentals. (I’ve done the research and had multiple conversations with hosts.) My Partner plans to construct a medieval style tavern. He wants to have a safe place anyone can come to for D&D games, cosplay, small wedding ceremonies, artist retreat, etc.
Phase three: Helping others. (Non profit)
I had an epiphany a few months ago. I believe I said out loud, “huh. I think this is my purpose in life.” I have been chronically ill with subsequent disabilities since I was a kid. I could not go camping. The outdoors just didn’t have the amenities I needed to enjoy my time in the woods. When I met my spouse, he slowly introduced me to camping, and I loved it! Every time we would go, he would take note of the things that made the trip difficult for me. Our next trip, he had solutions to make our adventures more accessible. That started with things like better air mattresses and warmer tents and evolved into a camper for a while. He made it easier for me to be disabled and still enjoy being outdoors.
I currently work for a nonprofit organization that supports people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (I/DD). We advocate for as much accessibility and independence as possible. Our mission statement and “culture of caring” is very personal to me and it will be difficult for me to leave that organization when we move. So I am inspired to take that mission with me.
Phase three would be continually working toward more accessible outdoor experiences for people with I/DD. We foresee making wheelchair accessible trails, modified fire pits, sensory friendly spaces, etc. Granted, it is camping so we will never be 100% accessible to everyone but we are going try to get as close as possible. I follow disabled travel bloggers and existing outdoor accessibility groups for inspiration and connections. I just want to create a space that is accessible for people who don’t normally get these kind of opportunities.
My roadblock right now is that despite my logic obsessed brain and feeling like I have a good plan, these life goals seem a bit outlandish to people I talk to. Now I don’t go around blabbering on to everyone about my goals but when people ask why we are moving so far away…well, see phases one through three. (Adding that this plan is only financial feasible east of the Rocky Mountains, hence the long distance move.)
We do have a good support system and people who are cheering us on. We have two very close friends that are talking about moving out east after we get settled and they actually want to help facilitate our dream. I know that should outweigh the few naysayers but it definitely hit me with some doubts. Mostly stemming from my own past failures but I’m aware of that. (Thanks therapy!) I have no intention of giving up on my life goals. I am very proud of the forethought and planning I have done thus far.
I don’t think I have one specific question. Just looking for relatable stories and how you feel about accomplishing big goals. Do you keep your ideas and plans to yourself? Do you want to share but feel like no one understands? What do you do to negate the doubts and keep moving forward?
I appreciate your input and your time. I am happy to answer questions as well. Definitely open to discussion and conversation.
TL;DR: Planning to move across the country to fulfill my “purpose” and life goals. Want to create accessible outdoor experience for people with disabilities. Getting some pushback and lack of understanding on why this is important to me. Do I stop sharing my goals with people? I don’t want to lose my motivation.

One of my good friends just texted me if I could watch his dog from Wednesday afternoon to Sunday afternoon so he could go have some fun. I would be able to "stay in the guest room" while having to deal with his super needy dog. I haven't responded yet but it's like "No dude, that sounds awful." I already watched her once at my place and it was too much. I'm not falling for that favor, again.
If you've ever asked someone to watch your dog for a vacation, you're essentially asking them to change their life's schedule because you're too cheap to put your dog in a kennel.

My wife (25f) and I (26m) are faced with two options to weigh and decide. Our answer will shape the rest of our lives. This has been racking our brains for the last week+ because we want to leave our house asap and sell it.
We can either move back home to family in NJ, get jobs and save up to buy an expensive house that still needs work (the market is terrible rn in jersey) or stay here in Texas and move to DFW and have a significantly greater quality of life.
We’re an hour south of Houston right now and we hate it. We have so many bad memories here, from cancer diagnoses, wage theft, lost the people we originally came out here for etc. we live in a beautiful home but we’re house broke because the work opportunities here aren’t fruitful if you’re not a blue collar worker. (We moved to a town where everyone asks why the hell we would move here of all places)
We can go back to NJ but we would be living in my childhood bedroom with our 2 cats, dog, and snake. We don’t even know when we’d be able to afford a place to own anytime soon there. The rent is astronomical as are the median home prices. Atleast 2.2x the avg cost of a home here in Texas (New constructions with marble countertops and slate showers for sub 300k, non existent in nj for under 450-500k).
We are fortunate to not have to pay any property taxes in NJ or TX so that’s not a con in either state for us. We have both been living together away from friends and family for 6 years now. We left because I was active duty stationed in NC and she was already in college, by the time my service was over we came out here for some family that has since cut us off knowing we have absolutely nobody out here.
We want to sell the house we’re currently in because we are miserable and depressed here, due to us not being able to afford to go on trips or the lack of nightlife/activities for non child rearing young adults and the fact that we came here for reasons that I’ve since ceased. Kids aren’t in our future so we’d like to make a positive out of no kids by loving our lives and doing the things people with kids can’t do anymore like taking the random getaways that we wouldn’t be able to afford with kids.
I did the math and if we purchase a home in the DFW area, we would have it paid off in 5-7 years (2yr flex for emergency funding) and that’s barely budgeting at all tbh, we’re just very fortunate to have those means. So we just don’t know if its worth it to give up this massive financial potential and stability of our future here to appease the people that miss us. Their take on it is “you didn’t listen to us when we said don’t go, y’all are miserable, and you’re just not gonna listen to us again and go somewhere else?” Meanwhile not a single person we know our age is able to live on their own in a decent house let alone a place without roommates at all and the people saying this either have to break their back with 2 jobs to afford ends meat or they’re getting tremendous support from family that we wouldn’t have. We love jersey and it’s culture, you won’t find it anywhere else, and we can go visit as much as we want if we live out here, but if we live there we’d struggle to even exist and take the time for ourselves. The reason I keep harping on trips and vacations is because my wife and I didn’t have a lot growing up and since we know kids aren’t happening, we’d like treat ourselves to a nice lifestyle. It’s not about the area for us, we foster animals and stay inside watching anime or playing video games most days. It’s really more or less will be able to use our money how we want to instead of dumping most of it into the interest of a home that we may feel regret over buying knowing what we could have else where.
It just feels like we’re bad people if we say we want to have a better quality home and more financial freedom for a ourselves since we’re not having kids. We don’t want to spend 30 years and all of our money to pay off a house and it’s interest when we can do it here in a fraction of the time while still saving money for other things like trips and date nights. Especially when we’re so young and fortunate enough to have this be our difficult decision. We also feel like we didn’t really give Texas a chance due to the year of us being here being so hectic and challenging and dealing with cancer and surgery and a bad ISD that committed wage theft. We’ve been told that we moved to the armpit of the armpit of Texas (Brazoria county Freeport area) and we think it’s be a night and day difference to DFW. We have a family friend in DFW who swears by it and can set my wife up with a teaching position at a local charter school. Oh we’d also have to make the 26hour+ drive to jersey with two cats a dog and a snake. The logistics involved with that alone scare us, godforbid one our cats got out of the car somewhere in the middle of the trip.
So essentially we don’t know what the “right” decision is and are afraid everyone back home will hate us for not coming back after venting to them about how much difficulties we’ve been faced with since coming here even though it really had nothing to do with Texas itself, we just got a lot of bad news since being here that made us really depressed. My wife’s Grandparents cut her off when they heard we moved to Texas because they couldn’t use our Nc house as a stopping point for their trips to florida and they took it as her running away from them even though we lived in a completely different state. she’s afraid she’ll be cut off again if she tells her we’re moving again in Texas and not closer to “home”. This really hurt my wife because she doesn’t have a relationship with her father and her mother passed away so her grandparents are all she has on her side.
TLDR: A couple is deciding whether to move back to their home state of NJ and live with family while struggling to afford a home, or stay in Texas but move to the DFW area for better job opportunities, quality of life, and financial stability. They have had a challenging time in Texas with bad memories and limited opportunities, but feel like they didn't give it a fair chance. They are hesitant to give up their financial potential for the sake of appeasing family, and aren't planning on having kids. They also worry about the logistics and stress of moving their pets such a long distance. If they choose Texas, how can they explain it to their family without sounding insensitive or selfish. They’re terrified of making the wrong decision since they’re so drastically different and have a lot of holdback when it comes to moving to jersey regarding finances and not being established in a career yet.

I have a month to month rental agreement. I gave 60 days notice on April 1st that I was vacating on June 1st. Over the past two days and without 24 hrs notice, the rest of my possessions have been removed, the apartment has been cleaned and painted over, and the front door was left unlocked. I have not turned in the keys yet, nor have I done a final walkthrough with an agent. Any advice or dm’s are welcome, thank you!

For Rent $8,499 Updated 6 Bedroom 2.5 Bedroom Two Level with Two Decks and Outdoor Space!
DESCRIPTION
Welcome to this wonderful Cow Hollow updated unit! Located in a two-unit building on a quiet street, this spacious two-level unit offers the comfort and convenience of a single-family home. With a private entry, the unit features a total of 5 bedrooms and 2.5 bathrooms, along with a living room, dining room, and an in-unit washer and dryer.
Lower Level
The lower entry level showcases two large bedrooms, each with doors that lead out to a sizable outdoor deck. A full bathroom and a washer dryer are also located on this level, providing added convenience.
Upper Level
Upstairs, you'll find an updated kitchen equipped with stainless steel appliances, including a dual oven, gas stove, and dishwasher. The kitchen flows into a spacious dining or living room with French doors that open up to an additional outdoor deck, perfect for outdoor dining and entertaining. The main bedroom on this level features an attached full bathroom, while there are additional bedrooms and a half bathroom to complete the upper level. The additional living room, equipped with its own door, holds the potential for conversion or partial partitioning to create a sixth bedroom.
Outdoor Space
The property also offers a large shared backyard for your enjoyment. Basement storage is available for an additional fee.
Location
Situated on Greenwich Street between Divisadero and Broderick, this rental is conveniently located within walking distance to hiking trails, bars, restaurants, museums, shops, and yoga studios on Chestnut, Union, and Fillmore Street. Additionally, it is just a few blocks away from popular attractions such as the Presidio, Palace of Fine Arts, Marina Green, Fort Mason, and Crissy Field. The Golden Gate Bridge is easily accessible from this location, allowing for convenient transportation options.
KEY FEATURES

• Year Built: 1915
• Sq Footage: 2120 sqft.
• Bedrooms: 6 Beds
• Bathrooms: 2.5 Baths
• Parking: Street Parking
• Lease Duration: 12 Months
• Deposit: $8,499
• Pets Policy: Cats & Dogs OK
• Laundry: In Unit
• Floor: 2
• Property Type: Apartment
• Storage: Available

Full listing available here https://rentals.ambatiproperties.com/listings/detail/52d5239c-3486-4847-9232-46c47ab1ba04

Hi Everyone,
I am having a panicky moment and need to rant. I live in Australia and for those that don't know, rent is generally advertised as a weekly payment rather than monthly.
Last year my housemate and I decided to team up as we do know each other and had to move out of our current places. We planned a meet up to discuss everything. I thought she would be an ideal housemate as she was able to afford a more expensive place soley by herself and she had all of the main furniture that I lacked; fridge, freezer and washing machine. I got out of a bad relationship and only had my cat, a clothes dresser, TV + Entertainment unit, couch bed. We both thought this was great as there would be no double ups of major furniture.
Soon after teaming up and applying for houses together, a property manager sought us both out and arranged for us to inspect a house that we applied for. They liked us and we were their first choice.
To be able to sign for the lease, we would have to pay a bond/security deposit of 6 weeks rent + an extra 2 weeks (8 weeks total). Housemate agreed to sign, if we go 50/50 on the bond/security deposit part and I cover extra 2 weeks myself. I was super desperate at the time and needed a placed like no tomorrow so I agreed and paid the security deposit and cover the extra 2 weeks.
I had to pay the entire lot (8 weeks) in full myself as housemate didn't have her side of bond ready.
I ended up also paying another 2 weeks on top of that so that we would not be in arrears as the property manager stated that we must always be 2 weeks in credit. So now I have paid a total 10 weeks of rent up on my own.
Housemate did eventually reimburse me for half of the bond part but refused to pay anymore than that. I was a upset about it but I let it go.
We didn't officially move in until 2 weeks after the bond (8 weeks) of rent were paid.
Once we were both moved in that is when housemate started to pay rent. We agreed that we would both pay rent 50/50 and pay the real estate company ourselves rather than transferring rent to one person to have them pay the full lot.
Our lease started in August last year, we got our first arrears text in September. I was gobsmacked at first because I was confident rent was being paid on time I pay my half of rent fortnightly on the same day (with the exception of public holidays). I also pay a little extra so that we have some credit going towards our water bill and so my payments are easy to distinguish.
Whenever one of us pays, the real estate company sends a receipt to both of us but the receipt never specifically says which person paid rent, it just appears as if it was from both of us.
We were getting arrears texts from October all the way to January. Instead of trying to find a whole bunch of receipts, I ended up getting requesting a rental ledger to be sent and plotted them out on a long calendar to visually see what was going on. I saw that I was technically ahead of rental payments on my half however housemate didn't pay on 2 separate weeks.
I politely showed housemate the gaps in rent that were causing the arrears; she sorts them out and we were good for about a month.
Housemate goes on a holiday for an entire month and we get an arrears text message. I message her and remind her that while on vacation, all rent and bills must always be paid. She sorts it out on her end.
We get another one a few months later when I am overseas on my holiday in April. Again I send a text message asking if she has paid rent. She does and sorts it out.
This current month of May we received x1 arrears text so far and I suspect we will get another one next week. I have a fresh set of monthly calendar's printed out and taped together to show all the payments. I have searched my text message history and took screenshots of all times I have asked about rent and screenshots from the property manager that state we have been in arrears.
When the arrears text comes in, I plan to call her to a meeting face to face so that we can discuss this. I told a friend this and was told that it will affect my credit score. Our lease that we signed shows that we are BOTH 100% responsible for paying rent and keeping the property up to standard.
Now I am not going to lie, I really hate confrontation, but I do need to speak up. I plan to wait until we get our next arrears text because I assume we will get it early next week and It will fall on deaf ears if I bring it up without a problem showing.
If all falls to shit and I have to get out of this house, I do have a back up plan.
I do have savings for extra rent, but I feel if I pay her end of rent that would mean that I would be accepting it as my half, sinking more money in on my end and she may be late more and more times.
I will post photos of the calendars show when rental payments have been made.
The bars in deep purple are all the times I have paid, bars in green are rent payments not made by me.
I underlined in purple when bond+2 weeks was paid.
Every bar regardless of colour resembles x 1 week of rent paid.
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TL/DR: Housemate has put us in arrears many times which could possibly risk declined lease renewal/termination and lower our credit score. I need to get off my ass and have a chat when an arrears notification comes in.

So the title might throw you off but this is something that affected me way more than I thought. So my ex and I were always on and off, but I guess you can say our feelings never went away. She hurt me a lot through the relationship, couple things being she would post ab her ex using tiktoks, she would ignore me at times and when we got into arguments she would say she didn't care about me but the next day she would. She also has depression and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), I've always tried to be understanding of that and help her but she didn't make much progress. She would self sabotage and I was usually the only one she would go to. Despite these things, our chemistry was great and if they never happened, we would be together and happy.
But flash forward, things would get bad and I would try to separate myself from her because I didn't want to keep getting hurt but each time she would text me wanting me back and saying she'll work on herself. So I said ok, but it kept happening and I kept separating myself. Sometimes a little too often and she finally caved and said she shouldn't chase after someone who doesn't want her. In reality, I always had feelings for her and I told her I cared but she didn't see it that way and swore me off, went party hopping with other guys and went on dates. I did not talk to any other girls. But when she was having panic attacks and needed to go to the hospital for a sickness, I helped her. I never stopped thinking about her despite everything she did to me.
My grandmother passed away and while out on vacation from college she would drunk text me after I specifically told her not to because I would be mourning and in a funeral. Saying she didn't need me and didn't care for me. I got back and I thought to myself, she really hurt me with that but I always hurt her from separating so easily, maybe I caused this. One of my biggest mistakes and I was so ignorant. I tried making things right and wanted to stay committed but she didn't make it easy. A lot of times she would say she didn't care and then the next day she did, over and over again. We got into lots of arguments but I stayed calm and wanted to fix things despite she was hurting me.
Eventually she regained feelings and we were good for a time. Until we got into another argument about me not answering the phone after she went to Florida with family on spring break. I explained I was with family and couldnt answer because we were all eating, she took her time to answer my texts and so did I. It boiled up to a point where she ignored my texts and calls for the rest of the day, only answering at night when i was out with family again. I left and talked to her asking why and that I was pissed off how she just ignored me, I told her it didn't even seem like she cared. Not surprisingly, she said why would she care about a person who does that, as in her thinking I ignored her.
Ig a lot of the past just boiled up and either of us had a hard time letting it go. I did my best to and wanted to make it work so bad, even when I felt like I was wasting my time. I bought her gifts and on valentines day I bought her a gift bag full of stuff and fed her with my money. Despite all this she once again didn't care about me. I flipped out and got super emotional, after everything I did, she's doing that again. I told her I hated how she made me feel and went off, I told her maybe I should just stop because she was a piece of shit and she said fine settle for less and hanged up. Come to find out she went to a club with her cousin and her friends so I texted her asking why didn't you tell me.
Another argument occurred and I was breaking down over the phone to her and she said I was ruining her night. I hanged up and she called asking what do I want and I broke it off. Found out from her friend she went twerking on other guys after that and kept saying it was my fault things were the way they were. After that I never got back with her, but that didn't stop us from talking. She apologized a bunch texting me asking for me back but I never caved. But I did help her still when she needed it with her mental issues and we still acted like a couple being in bed together. We still had sex and she broke down when I was leaving college to go home.
I guess deep down no matter what happened I still cared about her even when she was suicidal. Everytime over the phone I always comforted her with the issues she had. You might be wondering if she's crazy or just not worth it, well when she was in highschool she was raped and cheated on and dealt with a lot of home problems. She never really recovered from that because she kept it to herself. She always asked for me back but I told her to move on. I couldn't bring myself to block her because it felt lonely and she used to be my best friend. We had a pregnancy scare and I told her to take a test and asked if she had sex with anybody.
She kept asking why and dodging the question but I persisted. Well come to find out that night before, she went out got drunk and hooked up with someone she says she barely remembers. She said it was nothing and said she accepted that she had to move on but it just hit me for some reason and we got into an argument. I told her I never want to speak to her again and that she lied about having to be in a relationship to have sex. That same night she was drunk texting me saying she was horny and wanted me. It felt like I got cheated on but I knew I couldn't feel like that. She said what do you expect, I was trying for you but you shut me down.
Well I ignored her then drunk texted her saying I hated what she did in the past and we could've been good. She left a hole in my heart and she took my virginity too. She was my first girlfriend I ever really had and she made me feel comfortable around her. I told her I was gonna give up on kindness and she said she always loved me and that i shouldn't because she knew she had problems but that i was a great guy. I just feel like crap still and I blocked her and we are not talking. I know I shouldn't feel like this but I can't help it.
I guess what I'm asking is how can I get past this, I went out clubbing and got several girls phone numbers and got drunk but it didn't even help. I felt insecure at the same time. I'm in my room and don't want to get out of bed, I've lost motivation and can't help but think of her. I have zero interest in any other girls right now. I just don't know how I can stop feeling like this or even if my feelings are justified. All I'm asking rn is how can I get past this?

My ex girlfriend (F19) had drunk sex with someone and I (M19) feel horrible
So the title might throw you off but this is something that affected me way more than I thought. So my ex and I were always on and off, but I guess you can say our feelings never went away. She hurt me a lot through the relationship, couple things being she would post ab her ex using tiktoks, she would ignore me at times and when we got into arguments she would say she didn't care about me but the next day she would. She also has depression and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), I've always tried to be understanding of that and help her but she didn't make much progress. She would self sabotage and I was usually the only one she would go to.
Despite these things, our chemistry was great and if they never happened, we would be together and happy. But flash forward, things would get bad and I would try to separate myself from her because I didn't want to keep getting hurt but each time she would text me wanting me back and saying she'll work on herself. So I said ok, but it kept happening and I kept separating myself. Sometimes a little too often and she finally caved and said she shouldn't chase after someone who doesn't want her. In reality, I always had feelings for her and I told her I cared but she didn't see it that way and swore me off, went party hopping with other guys and went on dates. I did not talk to any other girls. But when she was having panic attacks and needed to go to the hospital for a sickness, I helped her. I never stopped thinking about her despite everything she did to me.
My grandmother passed away and while out on vacation from college she would drunk text me after I specifically told her not to because I would be mourning and in a funeral. Saying she didn't need me and didn't care for me. I got back and I thought to myself, she really hurt me with that but I always hurt her from separating so easily, maybe I caused this. One of my biggest mistakes and I was so ignorant. I tried making things right and wanted to stay committed but she didn't make it easy. A lot of times she would say she didn't care and then the next day she did, over and over again. We got into lots of arguments but I stayed calm and wanted to fix things despite she was hurting me. Eventually she regained feelings and we were good for a time. Until we got into another argument about me not answering the phone after she went to Florida with family on spring break.
I explained I was with family and couldnt answer because we were all eating, she took her time to answer my texts and so did I. It boiled up to a point where she ignored my texts and calls for the rest of the day, only answering at night when i was out with family again. I left and talked to her asking why and that I was pissed off how she just ignored me, I told her it didn't even seem like she cared. Not surprisingly, she said why would she care about a person who does that, as in her thinking I ignored her. Ig a lot of the past just boiled up and either of us had a hard time letting it go. I did my best to and wanted to make it work so bad, even when I felt like I was wasting my time. I bought her gifts and on valentines day I bought her a gift bag full of stuff and fed her with my money.
Despite all this she once again didn't care about me. I flipped out and got super emotional, after everything I did, she's doing that again. I told her I hated how she made me feel and went off, I told her maybe I should just stop because she was a piece of shit and she said fine settle for less and hanged up. Come to find out she went to a club with her cousin and her friends so I texted her asking why didn't you tell me. Another argument occurred and I was breaking down over the phone to her and she said I was ruining her night. I hanged up and she called asking what do I want and I broke it off. Found out from her friend she went twerking on other guys after that and kept saying it was my fault things were the way they were. After that I never got back with her, but that didn't stop us from talking.
She apologized a bunch texting me asking for me back but I never caved. But I did help her still when she needed it with her mental issues and we still acted like a couple being in bed together. We still had sex and she broke down when I was leaving college to go home. I guess deep down no matter what happened I still cared about her even when she was suicidal. Everytime over the phone I always comforted her with the issues she had. You might be wondering if she's crazy or just not worth it, well when she was in highschool she was raped and cheated on and dealt with a lot of home problems. She never really recovered from that because she kept it to herself. She always asked for me back but I told her to move on. I couldn't bring myself to block her because it felt lonely and she used to be my best friend. We had a pregnancy scare and I told her to take a test and asked if she had sex with anybody. She kept asking why and dodging the question but I persisted.
Well, come to find out that night before, she went out got drunk and hooked up with someone she says she barely remembers. She said it was nothing and said she accepted that she had to move on but it just hit me for some reason and we got into an argument. I told her I never want to speak to her again and that she lied about having to be in a relationship to have sex. That same night she was drunk texting me saying she was horny and wanted me. It felt like I got cheated on but I knew I couldn't feel like that. She said what do you expect, I was trying for you but you shut me down. Well I ignored her then drunk texted her saying I hated what she did in the past and we could've been good. She left a hole in my heart and she took my virginity too.
She was my first girlfriend I ever really had and she made me feel comfortable around her. I told her I was gonna give up on kindness and she said she always loved me and that i shouldn't because she knew she had problems but that i was a great guy. I just feel like crap still and I blocked her and we are not talking. I know I shouldn't feel like this but I can't help it. I guess what I'm asking is how can I get past this, I went out clubbing and got several girls phone numbers and got drunk but it didn't even help. I felt insecure at the same time. I'm in my room and don't want to get out of bed, I've lost motivation and can't help but think of her. I have zero interest in any other girls right now. I just don't know how I can stop feeling like this or even if my feelings are justified. All I'm asking rn is how can I get past this?

Give me some inspiration! I have a household of occult roommates. An alien, a mermaid, a spellcaster and a vampire. I’ve played with them a while but I am now looking to create some drama! Here are my sims:
Spellcaster - Jason Lowery
- Cheerful
- Outgoing
- Loyal
- (Formally Dance Machine)
- Quick Learner
- Likes Comedy and Violin
- Dislikes Fitness
- Level 10 in the comedy career +2 pay rises
Very nearly a Virtuoso Spellcaster
Spellcraft & Sorcery aspiration, level 4 just needs to Reach Spellcaster Rank 5 - Virtuoso to complete the whole aspiration
Adult, 136 days until age up
Best Friend - Lacy, flirty in the past but no more
Mermaid - Cole Marlow
- Child of the ocean
- Creative
- Loves the Outdoors
- Muser
- Fear of Unfulfilled Dreams
- Likes Fitness, Dancing, Video Gaming, Gardening and handiness
- Dislikes Electronica Music and Yellow
- Level 10 Actor, Medium pay gigs
- Very nearly a rising star, Vain quirk
Master Actor aspiration, level 4, just needs to place a Celebrity Tile in Starlight Boulevard to complete the aspiration
Young Adult, 72 days until age up
Grudge against Lacy due to argument for acting
Alien - Elliana Witt
- Vegetarian
- Dog Lover
- Cat Lover
- Animal Affection
- Fear of Unfulfilled Dreams
- Likes Cooking, Gardening, Alternative Music, Kids Radio Music, Easy Listening Music, Tween Pop Music
- Dislikes Yellow
Owns a Vet Clinic, level 7 veterinarian skill
Friend of the Animals aspiration, level 4, needs to complete all tasks
Young Adult, 75 days until ag up
Vampire - Lacy Sharpe
- Genius-
- Self-Absorbed
- Self-Assured
- Quick Learner
- Fear of Fire
- Likes Gardening, Guitar and Mischief
- Dislikes Retro Music and Yellow
- Level 8 Social Media career, 2, 783,082 followers
Only sleeps in coffin, can't eat human food, guilty if drink from humans, lives on plasma
Very nearly a grand master vampire
Master Vampire Aspiration, level 4, just needs Become a Grand Master Vampire to complete the whole aspiration
Number of Days Lived, 131
Fiancé - Prince Causey (Self absorbed, loves outdoors, foodie
Best Friend - Jason, flirty in the past but no more
Four pets:
Cat, adopted Fidget, Male adult, unneutered - Abyssinian, Playful, Curious, Fluffy
Cat, made in CAS Eris, Egyptian Mau, Female adult, Unspayed, Affectionate, Mischievous, Frisky
Dog, adopted Patches, Male adult, unneutered, Jack Russell Terrier, Loyal, Jumpy, Smart
Dog, adopted Waffle, Female puppy, unspayed, Saint Bernard, Troublemaker, Glutton, Vocal
I’m playing in Kriint's ‘Spacious Spellcaster Home’ from the gallery that I have refurbished and playing in Glimmerbrook.
Storylines! Cole has started an affair with Elliana, stemming from Cole flirting with Ellianna when researching the romantic trait for an acting gig. One thing led to another and they ended up in bed together after Cole won an acting award. They have exchanged winterfest and love day gifts but only have late night woohoo and the rest of the house are unaware of the relationship. I am imagining that Cole has made Ellianna keep the relationship secret because of his burgeoning acting career and Elianna is going along with it because she’s smitten.
Cole is desperately trying to be famous through his acting but when that wasn’t doing much for his fame he started making videos to boost his fame. He misses the ocean and has taken the household to Sulani for a vacation once so he could swim in the ocean again. He also massively got into fitness thinking that getting jacked up and muscley would help his career. He’s now not sure what he wants and constantly is getting angry from fear of unfulfilled dreams.
Ellianna and Lacy used to be at each other's throats but Lacy has grown out of the trait that makes everyone hate her and now they get on great. I don’t know how it happened but they both have a romance bar for each other, it’s empty but definitely there, so at some point there was some attraction between the two women. Ellianna also gets on great with Jason, but doesn't hang out much with him other than meals and holiday celebrations. Ellianna is an alien but was born on this planet, she doesn’t know her parents so doesn’t know much about being an alien therefore spends all of her time in her disguise but also feels like she will be rejected if she were to show her true form.
Ellianna absolutely adores animals and was working two jobs to fund her dream of owning a vet clinic but it was taking forever so the other three agreed to help Ellianna out with buying a vet clinic and some start-up funds because they were all earning more than Ellianna. Ellianna now has a little vet clinic in Gimmerbrook and has adopted four pets: two cats, two dogs. She bred the two cats together but gave the kitten away for adoption. This was painful for everyone so they will never be doing that again. Despite having her dream vet clinic she has started getting angry and sad because of a fear of unfulfilled dreams - I think spending time with Cole has rubbed off on her, though she is better at controlling her emotions than Cole.
Cole and Jason have bad sentiments towards each other and can’t be in the same room without getting tense and they get angry every time they try to talk. This happened after Cole was researching the angry trait for an acting gig. Jason seems to be unable to forgive Cole for the deception but Cole isn’t seeing Jason’s side of it either.
Cole also has a rocky relationship with Lacy, he flirted with her to research the romantic trait but it never went anywhere and they got into a fight when Cole was researching the angry trait for an acting gig. Their romantic bar is now half red, but they have managed to reconcile their friendship.
Jason and Lacy are best friends, they tried flirting once but it felt wrong, now they are the best of friends. Lacy has been a vampire for a very long time but only started trying to master being a vampire when she moved into the house with the others and she’s now very nearly a grand master vampire. However, living with non vampires she has been influenced to only eat plasma fruit and feels very guilty if she drinks from others without permission, but her roommates have given permission for her to drink from them when she’s been stuck for fruit. She took up the social media career so she could work at home away from the sun, though she’s working off a really old fashioned computer because that’s what she likes. She has amassed nearly 3 million followers but is somehow still not famous.
Lacy met her fiancé Prince on her very own doorstep. It’s been a whirlwind romance that has basically only been about woohooing in her coffin. She rang up Jason one day when she found a ring in Prince’s things, asking if she should say yes, Jason said she should decide and when he got home he found out Lacy and Prince were engaged! However Prince still doesn’t live with Lacy, though she has moved her coffin to the basement and bought a big bed for her room for Prince.
Both Prince and Lacy have the self absorbed trait. However I am thinking of taking away Lacy’s self absorbed trait because she has proven to be very caring towards the rest of the household - helping take care of the pets, cooking some meals even though she can’t eat human food and doing laundry at night etc.
Jason was the original owner of the house, is the oldest of the group (bar Lacy), but didn’t want to live alone so invited the other three to live with him (I haven’t worked out a backstory for how they all met). Jason in his youth was a dancing, joker boy. He wanted to get into magic to be more mischievous, which is why he gets on well with Lacy. He started a comedy career because being a spellcaster wasn’t paying the rent. He’s now at the top of his career. He also turned out to be a really good spellcaster and has learned nearly all the spells, is nearly at the top of the spellcaster levels, but only uses his cauldron for making mac ‘n’ cheese. Now nearing the top of both aspects of his life he’s also looking for a new direction.
As he headed into adulthood he stopped his dancing craze and became incredibly loyal to the people in his life. He had a crush on Grace Anansi but it never went anywhere, they are still friends but have barely seen each other recently. Jason has had no romantic relationship yet.
That’s it! Thoughts? Ideas? I like the idea of adding a baby to the household - but I don’t know who’s baby, and I would like a relationship to bust up but don’t know who. I have also thought about turning Lacy into a werewolf after I cure her vampirism but I’m not sure. I would love your ideas Reddit!
If you read this far on this verrry long post, thank you!!!

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Moving to a new state can be both exciting and overwhelming, especially if you’re relocating to a state as diverse and unique as Florida. Known for its beautiful beaches, warm climate, and vibrant culture, Florida is a popular destination for people of all ages looking for a fresh start.
Whether you’re moving to Florida for work, retirement, or just a change of scenery, it’s important to do your research and plan ahead to ensure a smooth transition. In this complete guide to relocating to Florida, we’ll cover everything you need to know to make your move as stress-free as possible.

Why Move to Florida?

Before we dive into the logistics of moving to Florida, let’s first explore some of the reasons why this state is such a popular destination. Here are just a few of the many reasons why you might want to consider moving to the Sunshine State:

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Checklist for Moving to Florida

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• Research the cost of living in different areas of Florida
• Determine your budget for housing and other expenses
• Find a reputable moving company to help you transport your belongings
• Change your address with the United States Postal Service
• Transfer your utilities to your new address
• Register your vehicle with the Florida Department of Highway Safety and Motor Vehicles
• Research health insurance options and choose a plan that suits your needs and budget
• Familiarize yourself with Florida’s weather and prepare accordingly
• Learn about the unique culture and customs of Florida

Conclusion

Moving to Florida can be a daunting task, but with the right planning and preparation, it can also be an exciting and rewarding experience. By researching your options for housing, dealing with logistics, and familiarizing yourself with the unique culture and customs of the Sunshine State, you can ensure a smooth transition and start enjoying all that Florida has to offer. Don’t forget to utilize a moving service that specializes in driving U-Haul and Penske trucks such as MovingTruckDriver for a safe and efficient move.

MY PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
INTRODUCTION
Hello there! My name is Siddharth Rai and I live in India. I am a twenty-six years old male and I live with my parents. I work at the nearby airport as an electrical engineer. I have a younger sister who is studying zoology in a college nearby and she lives away from us due to her college. My writing style might not be appealing but I would be happy if you read and reviewed my article. It will help me get new interesting things to you. I hope you enjoy reading this.
I have always wanted to write a book. I like to write poems, I like music, I like art and I like to travel. I have never travelled out of my country except to Nepal. Nepal is quite nearby to where I live. I live in the eastern India, Darjeeling. Some of you might have heard or visited the place before. I live in the foothills though- Siliguri but the district is Darjeeling. I have spent around thirteen years of my life in Darjeeling. I miss those golden days that I have spent with my family and friends in Darjeeling. Those days will never come back again. It is a beautiful pain. All the crazy things that we do as teenagers, I did it in Darjeeling- fighting, having girlfriends, forming a band, roaming around the streets- everything. Some of the people I met on the streets are now superstars and some homeless vagabonds. Some are married and some committed suicide because they couldn’t love. I am just a regular guy like you. I think I am below average when it comes to money, prestige, personality and many other things that define us- a lifestyle.
The reason I thought about writing this article is because I want to become a better person as I am approaching towards my thirties. I have heard somewhere that writing makes it easier and effective to do something that we want to do. I hope this article will help you in some way or the other. I will share some of the deepest things that I feel. I will talk about my past. I will let you know about my present and I will also try to show you the future that I have visioned for myself. I will be talking about my personality development.
PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT
We have often heard about the word personality. We have often heard about one getting complimented for their personalities and sometimes people finding their personalities not matching with others, mostly to their partners. It’s interesting to see us being conscious about so many things in our lives. Our beauty, physique, clothes, status in the society, possessions, partners and other small things like our fear of facing people, inferiority, pride, love, attachment. Well personality is a sphere where all of the conscious things are confined into.
It is the way we react to the factors that make us feel something- good or bad. Feeling good includes many things- paragliding, completing a trek, listening to classical music, releasing a music video. Feeling bad might feel like thinking about the moment that hurts you- could be anything, you know better.
How are you going to react to the situations-now and then? That defines your personality. If you ask the instructor for your money back after a paragliding session because you couldn’t fly for another ten minutes because of the weather then you need to work on some parts of your life and if you left your girl with the man and her friends just because you missed the party the previous night then you need to work on some part of your life- you might be using your head too much. I am worried about how I am going to handle a relationship in the future because I’ve messed up my previous ones- I need to work on some part of my life. My personality is not balanced.
Personality is a gift- a box of chocolates- it’s tasty but harmful if eaten too much.
I want to forget about my past, but I can’t because I have hurt some of the best people of my life like my parents, family, friends, teachers, girlfriend and even a dog- damn! I wonder if she is alive- Dalli the dog. My friend’s dog. She gave birth to two little puppies. One is with us-a mother now- Lily. Lily makes me happy. She is wonderful. The only reason why I was facing the hardest time of my life was because I didn’t have any purpose in life. I wasn’t fulfilling my duty-studying. I would get high the entire day, miss my classes and sleep after a masturbation session. Food and shelter were available for me as my parents paid for it. They would send money every month and I would eat, get high, sleep- repeat. I did this for two years and my girlfriend was gone, I had failed in my semesters like a dead toad, I was financially depressed, I had lost weight, I was now a little jerk. I wasn’t happy. I never wanted to kill myself though. I wasn’t raised that way. My father was in the army, and you know how it is in the military family- respect and discipline but I packed my bags and returned back home during my third year and a year of my college was still left behind.
When I went back home, I couldn’t find my peace because my aunt was living with my mother with her little daughter- my sister. When I went there to live with my mother there were four ladies and me- one man. I had habits and it was difficult for me to maintain them. The rooms were small, and everything was audible. I had a habit of masturbating before sleep. And my aunt would sleep in the room right next to mine. I sometimes wanted to screw her up, but I knew it was not a moral decision. I wanted to seduce her just to masturbate but I couldn’t because I didn’t know how to. And interestingly I was a virgin until twenty-five years old. That was one of the reasons why my relationship didn’t work out with that girl because I couldn’t fuck. I mean she would say after marriage, but she would also get naked and get missionary, but I was facing mild erectile dysfunction because of heavy marijuana dosage, porn and excessive masturbation. So, maybe that didn’t work out. I left my mother’s comfort and came back to college to complete my education and I did but a year later. My psycho friend had passed his college and I was left behind with another friend of mine- loser no.2. I think he still is a virgin. But I am not. Not anymore!
My friends and I none of us got placed. We were jobless and there was corona virus and lockdown. It was good time for assholes like me to waste life away. I would spend my day by playing pubg with my friends, watching porn and masturbating. My good time had begun. I was lucky enough to have faced an interview with the army for army engineering and not lucky enough for selection but reaching that spot where I was trying to compete to become an officer in the army. I was lucky enough to have got the chance to spend my time peacefully with my mother and my sister. My aunt had gone back home- her child had a vacation now- due corona and all.
One of my cousins are the in army. He was home for a break, and he motivated me to jog in the morning. I ran for two or three months but quit. But my mind was now looking for motivation to stay fit. One day I was watching porn and masturbation. Right after ejaculation I decided to stop watching porn and masturbating. Oh! Good days! I felt so good that day when I didn’t masturbate. I felt clean and guilt free. I was free now. I would miss my ex though. Her smile, her sadness, the burden she had due to me, the heavy heart that she had because she never wanted to leave me. I hope she is free and happy. I wish her the best and ask for forgiveness for every little thing that I did to her. I never wanted to make you cry but I am sorry. I have realized my mistakes now and I want to see you with a smiling face one day. I have moved on, but I am around, and I hope you too. Take care.
My friends have hurt me too and I have hurt them too. My family has hurt me, and I have hurt them too. People change but you don’t. Things always happen to you. Girlfriend, friends, family, money and etc.
But thank God I have a job now and I am earning a little every month. It’s just enough for me to sustain a month. I hope I’ll be out there in the wild world once I have a little experience about work culture.
FOCUS
If I could move a mountain, I would try to carry it around on my shoulders. A child, a teenager, an adult, a man, a woman, old, new no matter who, everyone is trying to find something in their lives- focus. If they lose focus, they will never be able to talk. Try not thinking anything and talking- you will notice how your brain coordinates your speech. We don’t care what we talk about because we are focused on something- conveying our message. It’s important to learn how to improve your focus. Thus, in order to improve your focus let’s try:

1. Meditating: Five to fifteen minutes a day- om meditation or guided meditation. Connect yourself with the inner spirit. Find out how heavy your chest is and how clouded your mind is. You are supposed to be as light the air and as clean as the water in the spring. Your mind should contain natural sceneries and not porn.
   
2. Exercising: Your body is a masterpiece of art. A godly creation. The entire human civilization is based on bodies. The entire art and history show how great leaders and warriors and scholars looked like. They had extremely appealing bodies, no matter what nation they belonged to. Romans, Greeks, British, Chinese, Japanese, Indians, Gorkhas, Sikhs, Mughals, and Americans, all of them have an interesting thing to notice- their bodies. Fast and furious to giants and strong. They all are focused. Some ruling the nations, some fighting wars, some creating art, some politics and some philosophies. They have a balance between their and heart and their brain. Have you ever done a chin up? Next time you do try to notice how your heart gets connected to your brain like a hook linking a loop. So, dear friends- exercise.
   
3. Study: I study engineering because I want to reach a better position in my career. You can study to be happy or flourish your business. But study something- learn.
   
4. Work: Work. Move your body, use your head. Work. Let your body know about discomfort and tiredness. In these modern times we have found new ways to earn our livelihoods- investment especially. If you are not a broker who works, his heart out to analyze and make profit and you are the one who makes money and live luxurious life out of the money your broker made for you then you should at least spend some time trying to make money the hard way- at least a day. I know you have been through a lot, and you have finally found your financial peace or you were born rich, but I must tell you he is not a man who doesn’t work. You can try house chores if nothing is coming to your mind. So, work just to get yourself in motion.
   
5. Hobbies: I play dota2 and I want to play the internationals. I sing karaoke. Do what gets you excited to get back home.
   
6. Read: Read books. I want to learn finance, health, relationship, science and engineering. You can read them too. Reading is something that makes time for your brain to rest for some time. It will settle down some of your chemical imbalances there.
   
7. Write: Write your deepest feelings, write a short story, write essays. Write. You can’t always be verbally sharing things with others. Some things might have been missed and some left unsaid like the ones in the previous paragraphs. It’s just a good thing to do-write.
   

My friends I don’t practice all of the above-mentioned tasks, but I always try to. It took me two years to settle down to a routine that I can follow to simplify my day and trust me the day is easier with a disciplined routine. I wake at around 6 in the morning and I go to the gym. It has been only two weeks since I joined the gym. I come home and make breakfast, eat it and go to work. My mom and my dad help me with my lunch. They are paying for my petrol and miscellaneous and after a week I will be getting my first salary. Well, I can’t tell everything here. So, basically my life is a mess. I am trying to make it a better one, but I am not sure about it. I have lost so many times. You know!
But I don’t want to lose anymore. I want to get that two years of experience even if I have to live like a baby with my parents. I will get my body in shape, get my interests aligned and skills sharpened. I will get familiar with my subject, and I am sure a day will come when I receive a salary way more than today.
INTEREST
If you can’t quit, then it means you are inspired. Inspiration and motivation are two different things. You can’t inspire someone verbally, but you can motivate them. Inspiration is long lasting, and motivation is short term. Motivation is like fuel to your inspiration. You will understand it. Just try to do something that you are interested in for three months. That’s a goal.
I am interested in many things. Interest as I say please refer to skills- just to make it easier for you to understand the difference between hobbies and interests. My interests are in programming, designing electrical circuits, photography and content writing. These are skills that I want to acquire, and I am “interested in”. My interest can’t be lifelong because I have distractions around. So, with a small technique I can learn these skills without losing my interest. The technique is numbering. Just put make a list of things that you want to learn. It will help you not lose your interest.
How to keep your interest alive?
You can try writing them down on a diary. Make a list of your interest. Interests are those skills that can make you famous, rich and happy like painting, programming etc. Show your interests to the world on social platforms to gain fame, sell them or get a job to get rich and master your skills to be happy. Have some interest friends.
Basically, if you have a good body, wealth, character, behaviors, manner, education, then you will have a personality that is safe and sound. People below your level will not mess with you and you won’t mess with people that are above you. But you will become someone who can deal with both the types because it’s not every day you get to meet and talk to the president and it’s seldom you need to avoid people that can harm you- rich and the poor.
Thank you for sticking to this post for such a long time. I feel humble enough to present this article to you. I would like to apologize if anybody was offended in this post. I can’t think more than this my friends. I would appreciate it if you left your valuable comments on this. Thanks, and may God bless you.
SUMMARY
I am qualified enough to talk about personal developments with you all but the reckless years that I have been through can tell how much I needed it and how deeply I longed for it. I had no one to lift me up. Everyone is selfish in this world. The principles in your life will clash with your ego and get you down on your knees. Your mind will become your master because you no longer have a master’s personality inside of you. And that is when you start to crave for love, sympathy, care and you start to do stupid things to gather attention because nobody wants you anymore. Your girlfriend will tell you how low you have come down in your life, you can clearly read it in her eyes that she no longer needs you and she no longer wants to be with you. You father will start becoming caring towards you because he is depressed because of you. Your mother will scream at you, cry in front of you, curse you. Your sister will probably start avoiding you and hating you because you are an alcoholic now with no strength and future. Your friends will leave you alone because they know you need time and you no longer fit the group. Your life is a mess that only you can clear.
Straight up! Accept that you lost, accept that you need help, accept that you are hurt and accept life is amazing while improving. Go quit weed, go hit the gym, go quit drinking alcohol, go quit porn, go get a job, go study, go learn, go do it! You know your worth. Forgive yourself because you know you did it for others and it drained your energy away. Now it’s time to take care of yourself. You are not being selfish, but you need to refill. Make new friends. Cut some of your old buddies that you thought were useless. Get in touch with people who are like you- struggling. Stay close to people who have made it through the tough times. Talk to beautiful people. Talk to your parents. Write. Pray. Love. Take care of your sisters, brothers, family, friends, society, country, the world. We all have to pass through tough times. We did yesterday, we did today, and we will do it tomorrow, but the greatest thing of life is ACCEPTANCE. Accept your flaws and do it again-this time for a better life.

TL;DR The landlord was charging rent twice and was forced to return what they owed.
This happened in 2011, so most of it is from my memory. I was renting a condo unit in a very nice neighborhood. The landlord, whom I will call John, was very nice. I didn't know his day job, just that he was in the finance domain. This unit was his investment home.
I leased the condo for a year - from May 2010 to April 2011. John would come to collect rent on the first of every month. He preferred cash, and I had no issues paying him in cash. He never bothered me at any other time. Once I had a plumbing issue, I called him, and he promptly sent a plumber to fix it. Basically, our relationship was amicable.
In January 2011, my company wanted me to move to another location (in a neighboring state). I am into IT and needed to guide a project team that was to start in March. I negotiated with my manager to move around the end of April after my current lease expired. I informed John that I will not renew the lease, and he was cool with it.
In February, a mutual friend (I will call him Peter) came by my house and immediately fell in love with the neighborhood. He asked me if I knew of any condos that were available for rent. I told him I was planning to vacate by the end of April, and if he was interested, I could talk to my landlord for him. I also gave him John's number. That evening, I called up John and told him my friend is interested in renting the unit and can rent it from May 2011. I also gave him Peter's number to communicate directly. John thanked me, and that was that.
Around the first week of March, my wife's cousin's marriage got finalized. The wedding date was the 7th of April. We are from India, and marriages are a big thing where all the family and relatives get together for several days. There was no way in hell, that my wife would miss it. We decided that she would travel to India with my 4-years old son. I would go to the new office location, and by the time they come back from India (sometime in May), I would have everything set in the new place.
We booked the flight tickets for my wife and son. Their flight was a few (four or five) days before the wedding. When my manager came to know that I will be alone after April 2nd, he pushed me to join the new office on April 3rd. Those days, working remotely was not considered efficient.
But I wanted a few days to pack as I was moving to another state. I booked a mover to come on April 11. With all things taken care of from my side, I informed John (around the middle of March) that I was planning to release the condo on April 11. John thanked me, and that was that.
I called Peter and told him I would be leaving earlier in April. By then, John had discussed the rent with him, and they both had signed the lease agreement. Peter was to move in on the 1st of May, 2011.
Since I will be gone starting April 11, Peter asked me if he could move in from April 15 instead. I did not have any objections; I asked him to inform John. Peter checked with John, and John agreed over the phone. Peter called back and updated me.
I never thought of asking Peter for half the rent. I knew he would be paying rent for the whole month for his old apartment, and my apartment would be vacant anyway.
On April 1, John called and collected the rent in the evening. He asked me how things were going and if I needed any help. I thanked him and declined his help. I asked if he could come by in the evening (after 6 p.m.) of the 11th, for an inspection and to collect the keys.
I was impressed with John for offering help and thought him to be a decent guy. Little did I know that he had ulterior motives. He was making sure that I was leaving by the 11th.
After collecting the rent, he went home and called up Peter. He wanted to adjust the lease dates to start the lease on April 15. John was sly enough to wait till he got the rent from me and then wanted to collect the rent again from Peter.
Peter signed it but did not tell me until a few days later. When I heard this, I was livid. I asked Peter, "When did you sign the new lease?". As I suspected, John had called Peter the night of April 1, after collecting the rent from me. They signed the new lease the next day - April 2.
I called John and asked him to pay me back the rent for half of the month, as he was already charging it from Peter. He said, "No can do, you have signed the lease until the end of the month." (I am paraphrasing here; I don't remember his exact words now.)
I was mad, but he had a point. And with so many things to take care of during the move (on top of the hectic work schedule at that time), I couldn't even think I had the time to take any action against him. Normally, I am not a vengeful guy, but I wanted John to pay (and not necessarily monetarily). I stewed over it for a day or two, and suddenly an idea came to my mind, and I thought of giving it a shot.
I waited till the 10th, and on the evening of April 10, I called John and told him that he need not come for the inspection the next evening as I changed my plans. I will be moving out on the 28th of April instead. John became quiet for a few seconds. Then he said, "But you were planning to move out tomorrow." He was stammering. I said, "Yes, but I have the lease until the end of the month, so I am planning to take it slow." It was a taste of the same bitter medicine that he gave me. Then I nicely said "good night" and disconnected the call.
I don't know what was going on in John's mind, but he must have been pretty scared about the lease he had signed with Peter. As per the lease, Peter had a right to move in from April 15, but I had already paid for the whole month and I am within my rights to stay till the end of the month. If I didn't vacate, Peter could take him to court.
The next morning (the day of the move), John called me on the dot at 7 a.m. He asked me if I would consider moving sooner if he paid me part of the rent. I said yes. The poor guy materialized in a minute. It turns out he was waiting outside in his car to meet me if I agreed.
John handed me an envelope. I counted the money and was a little confused. There was $800 in it. My monthly rent at that time was $1,250, and I would have settled for $625 or less.
This was early in the morning, and I was thinking of the movers and 100 other things that needed to be taken care of that day. I was not prepared to interact with John, and we did not even talk about money the previous night. I did not expect him to come over with the money, and that too, so suddenly.
I started feeling sorry for the poor guy and was thinking of returning him the extra $175, but he spoke too soon. He wanted to know (in a demanding voice) if I was going to vacate the condo that evening, as I had previously communicated. I realized he did not deserve my compassion. I wanted to spite him and tell him, "No, can do" but I did not escalate it and said, "Yes, come in the evening for inspection."
The whole day was hectic, but the movers cleared up the house promptly. I had a few other things to take care of and a few things to donate. The evening comes, and John was there exactly at 6 p.m. He did not inspect anything, collected the keys, handed me a check/cheque (returning the full amount of the security deposit I gave at the beginning of the lease signing), and went away. No thank you or goodbye. It felt a bit weird, but there were 800 reasons to ignore that feeling.
I was a bit puzzled about why he gave me $800 instead of $625. I calculated later and assumed that he paid me back for 19 days that I would not be on the property, which comes to $792.
PS: John and Peter are not their real names. April 11th is the correct date (I can never forget it), and all other dates are approximate.

I finally blew up at my roommate.
After exactly a year of having to deal with my roommate, I finally reached my breaking point. We were friends for years before living together, but as soon as I moved in she made it clear that she wanted the place exactly how she had it and only she could have her things where she wanted them. Did she tell me this like a normal adult? No. She would take ANYTHING I left in the common space and throw it into my room. Notepads, pens, laptops, books, controllers, blankets, shoes, ANYTHING that she considered clutter was thrown into my room. Literally everything I mentioned was already in the common spaces because she had them when I moved in, but as soon as I put MY stuff in OUR living room, it was unacceptable and thrown straight into my room. Literally the most common household things were tossed back if she didn't like them, but if she had a use for it, it could stay out. She would never directly talk to me about anything she felt was wrong, she would just do petty things and, if she was really upset at something, would ignore me for days at a time. I had to be the one constantly asking why she was mad and having to open a dialogue cause she is incapable of communicating on her own like a regular adult and would rather let it fester.
It's a long story of her being controlling over literally everything in the house, but to sum up what led to the current situation I'm in, over the last few months I've looked at the way she treats me and noticed she only actually talked to me when she wanted something from me. Which at first, I was more than happy to help her because she was my friend. I would go with her to the store, help her with her room cause she was "too stressed to deal with it on her own", be there for her through boyfriend troubles, give her some of my meals when she didn't feel like cooking, got her gifts for the holidays and my birthday, went to events nobody else wanted to go to with her, let her borrow whatever she needed, and the list goes on and on. A few months ago, I noticed that any time I would ask for the same treatment back, she never gave it. She takes and takes, but never gives. She treats me like I'm a pest in her home otherwise. The way she treats our other friends, her boyfriend, and people in public just trying to do their job is a whole other subject, but just imagine any typical Karen that gets set off anytime she doesn't get exactly what she wants exactly when she wants it, but then tries to make it okay by being friendly right after she gets what she wants.
Most recently, she came to me asking if we could hang out, crying because she was sad her boyfriend was out of town. At this point I had been angry at her for weeks after how she's treated me, but I still hugged her and spent the night watching TV with her. That night I gave up hanging out with my boyfriend during the only free time he had that day AND I worked a double the next day and felt dead because I had stayed up with her instead of sleeping. Cause that's what friends are for right? Except she's never done anything remotely like that for me. I've always held my tongue through all of this because I didn't want it to be awkward in the house or her do anything to my stuff. Just forgive and forget, but enough was enough.
This was building up for MONTHS. Her asking me for things and never giving anything back, judging me for things she didn't like about me, generally making me feel like an unwanted annoyance in my own home. And Lord help anyone who goes against her because she will never apologize and never think she's wrong about anything. I've never heard her apologize to anybody even once or even suggest that she had anything to do with a problem, she just gets defensive and entirely blames somebody/something else or turns it back around on you.
Now, the blowup:
She's out of state with a friend. My other roommate and I are home when suddenly the AC goes out. We live in Florida and the summer heat is no joke, so this was kind of an urgent situation. She, being the control freak she is with this house and unable to ask for help from anyone living in it, has always had us go through her for communications with anyone legally associated with the place and has never given us any type of contact information or account information to anything (she lived here before us so everything was in her name. We aren't even on the lease, but the landlord is aware we live here and share rent). So I let her know the AC is down and if she could ask someone to come out and fix it as soon as they could. A simple phone call, right? Wrong. She's annoyed with me right at the start and just says "you can call" and sends a contact for the realtor. I'm already over it and just say "ok thanks" and call her. My roommate has talked with this woman for years and knows her well. The realtor doesn't know who I am and I have to explain where I live, who I am, my relationship to my roommate, and explain that I'm not on the lease but I have a problem and need help. Obviously she's just confused and leaves things off at an unconvinced "I'll get back to you."
A whole day passes and I hear nothing. At this point we have all the windows and doors open and every fan on trying to get the heat out of the house. My other roommate is tired of waiting and sends our roomates a message asking her to call somebody for us since they obviously didn't take me seriously when I called and it's just getting hotter and hotter. She tells her no problem, that she'll handle it. A while later I get a text from her letting me know the property manager is going to call me. At this point I'm just happy I can talk to someone who can help. She's very nice and and we work things out and got someone to come out to fix what we thought was the problem, and the AC worked for the rest of the day. Hours later my roommate just sends "?". I could only assume she wanted an update, so I told her everything was good and we fixed it. She messaged back "If you want me to deal with problems while I'm gone then I'd appreciate you at least texting me back." The entire 2 days was this type of attitude towards us. What was I supposed to respond to?? It was literally only those 4 messages between us. I give her the benefit of the doubt and took a screenshot and sent it to her asking if there was a message I didn't get because maybe she asked me something and it didn't send because she was out of state. Nope. She responds by saying that it was just those messages, but if we wanted HER to deal with OUR problems while SHE was on vacation, then I should at least update her about it. What in the fresh hell would make her think that after an entire 2 days of her being pissed with me for even speaking to her while she's "on vacation" that I would want to text her again just to get more of the same thing? Believe it or not, I don't enjoy getting talked down to. I hadn't even told her that the AC broke again and that I had already been handling it myself for the last day. If an update really meant that much to her, she could've just asked for one and I'd happily give it, but her being her, any little inconvenience sets her off so I didn't want to reach out since she obviously wanted us to deal with it on our own in the first place and leave her out of it. She literally never even asked if we were okay or anything and it was so hot my roommate got a heat rash and we both had to go to a friend's place. Not a single ounce of empathy, just mad that we interrupted her vacation. I asked her if she was mad (trying again to give her the benefit of the doubt, cause maybe I read it the wrong way because of how aggravated I was by this whole situation at this point). She said she was because we were interrupting her vacation while she's with a friend and didn't want to deal with any of this.
I text her back calling her out for being passive aggressive about the entire situation the whole time while talking down to me and said that we would've never bothered her in the first place if we could do it ourselves, but SHE was in charge of these situations and we didn't have contacts for anybody or any type of resources because she never gave them to us and always took it up on herself to speak to them whenever we had a problem. She took the entire situation personally and acted like she was above any of the problems going on in OUR house and above being asked by us to do anything about it. I also told her that it had already broke again and I was actively trying to fix the situation, but didn't want to bother her "while she's on vacation with a friend out of state" since she made that so clear the first time. If she had actually asked me for an update she would've known all of this, but I was actively trying to avoid her as much as possible at this point.
She said she was mainly mad that we even asked her to "deal with it" in the first place instead of just asking for the numbers to call. A ) this is the first time she's ever said to not go through her for these things and B ) Is there really such a difference?? I wouldn't even have cared if she had said to me "hey do you mind calling them instead since I'm out of town? Here's all the numbers you probably need" and leaving it at that instead of being rude from the start and in every message after that. She could've asked for an update. She could've asked what happened. She could've talked to me without being so aggravated the entire time. And I told her exactly that.
It all went over her head because she can never be in the wrong and just said the same "on day one you couldve asked me for the number but you didn't. You asked me to call someone to fix it. You reached out to ME while I'M on VACATION with my friend. Out of state." And "it's not my fault the AC is broken"
I told her she was right, she had no control over the AC breaking, but what she could control was the way she handled it and the way she spoke to me which was totally unnecessary and only made us more angry with her along with the heat. If I was responsible for something and my FRIEND/roommate came to me for help, I'd do whatever I could till I knew it would get resolved. All it took on her end was a 5 minute phone call and she still made a big deal over it when we were the ones at home having to live in the situation. After all the times she's come to me for help with literally everything she could ever ask for, she couldn't help me the ONE time I needed something that wasn't even personal. Not only that, but got mad at me for even contacting her and insinuating that she help at all. Whatever basic human decency she had left stayed at the border along with any respect I had left for her as a person.
After all that, here I am with the AC still broken
Things are gonna be interesting when she gets back.
TLDR: My roommate is a selfish asshole who'd rather let me cook in 90 degree weather than make a 5 minute phone call.

So the title might throw you off but this is something that affected me way more than I thought. So my ex and I were always on and off, but I guess you can say our feelings never went away. She hurt me a lot through the relationship, couple things being she would post ab her ex using tiktoks, she would ignore me at times and when we got into arguments she would say she didn't care about me but the next day she would. She also has depression and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), I've always tried to be understanding of that and help her but she didn't make much progress. She would self sabotage and I was usually the only one she would go to. Despite these things, our chemistry was great and if they never happened, we would be together and happy. But flash forward, things would get bad and I would try to separate myself from her because I didn't want to keep getting hurt but each time she would text me wanting me back and saying she'll work on herself. So I said ok, but it kept happening and I kept separating myself. Sometimes a little too often and she finally caved and said she shouldn't chase after someone who doesn't want her. In reality, I always had feelings for her and I told her I cared but she didn't see it that way and swore me off, went party hopping with other guys and went on dates. I did not talk to any other girls. But when she was having panic attacks and needed to go to the hospital for a sickness, I helped her. I never stopped thinking about her despite everything she did to me. My grandmother passed away and while out on vacation from college she would drunk text me after I specifically told her not to because I would be mourning and in a funeral. Saying she didn't need me and didn't care for me. I got back and I thought to myself, she really hurt me with that but I always hurt her from separating so easily, maybe I caused this. One of my biggest mistakes and I was so ignorant. I tried making things right and wanted to stay committed but she didn't make it easy. A lot of times she would say she didn't care and then the next day she did, over and over again. We got into lots of arguments but I stayed calm and wanted to fix things despite she was hurting me. Eventually she regained feelings and we were good for a time. Until we got into another argument about me not answering the phone after she went to Florida with family on spring break. I explained I was with family and couldnt answer because we were all eating, she took her time to answer my texts and so did I. It boiled up to a point where she ignored my texts and calls for the rest of the day, only answering at night when i was out with family again. I left and talked to her asking why and that I was pissed off how she just ignored me, I told her it didn't even seem like she cared. Not surprisingly, she said why would she care about a person who does that, as in her thinking I ignored her. Ig a lot of the past just boiled up and either of us had a hard time letting it go. I did my best to and wanted to make it work so bad, even when I felt like I was wasting my time. I bought her gifts and on valentines day I bought her a gift bag full of stuff and fed her with my money. Despite all this she once again didn't care about me. I flipped out and got super emotional, after everything I did, she's doing that again. I told her I hated how she made me feel and went off, I told her maybe I should just stop because she was a piece of shit and she said fine settle for less and hanged up. Come to find out she went to a club with her cousin and her friends so I texted her asking why didn't you tell me. Another argument occurred and I was breaking down over the phone to her and she said I was ruining her night. I hanged up and she called asking what do I want and I broke it off. Found out from her friend she went twerking on other guys after that and kept saying it was my fault things were the way they were. After that I never got back with her, but that didn't stop us from talking. She apologized a bunch texting me asking for me back but I never caved. But I did help her still when she needed it with her mental issues and we still acted like a couple being in bed together. We still had sex and she broke down when I was leaving college to go home. I guess deep down no matter what happened I still cared about her even when she was suicidal. Everytime over the phone I always comforted her with the issues she had. You might be wondering if she's crazy or just not worth it, well when she was in highschool she was raped and cheated on and dealt with a lot of home problems. She never really recovered from that because she kept it to herself. She always asked for me back but I told her to move on. I couldn't bring myself to block her because it felt lonely and she used to be my best friend. We had a pregnancy scare and I told her to take a test and asked if she had sex with anybody. She kept asking why and dodging the question but I persisted. Well come to find out that night before, she went out got drunk and hooked up with someone she says she barely remembers. She said it was nothing and said she accepted that she had to move on but it just hit me for some reason and we got into an argument. I told her I never want to speak to her again and that she lied about having to be in a relationship to have sex. That same night she was drunk texting me saying she was horny and wanted me. It felt like I got cheated on but I knew I couldn't feel like that. She said what do you expect, I was trying for you but you shut me down. Well I ignored her then drunk texted her saying I hated what she did in the past and we could've been good. She left a hole in my heart and she took my virginity too. She was my first girlfriend I ever really had and she made me feel comfortable around her. I told her I was gonna give up on kindness and she said she always loved me and that i shouldn't because she knew she had problems but that i was a great guy. I just feel like crap still and I blocked her and we are not talking. I know I shouldn't feel like this but I can't help it. I guess what I'm asking is how can I get past this, I went out clubbing and got several girls phone numbers and got drunk but it didn't even help. I felt insecure at the same time. I'm in my room and don't want to get out of bed, I've lost motivation and can't help but think of her. I have zero interest in any other girls right now. I just don't know how I can stop feeling like this or even if my feelings are justified. All I'm asking rn is how can I get past this?

I am miserable. Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I will always be miserable.
I am majorly resentful of my husband. I cannot seem to shake the things he has said to me. He has threatened me numerous times. Never physically, but always financially. He has threatened me with our house, children and even my dog. He has told me he’ll start world war 3 if I leave him. He thinks it’s funny to say “I’m never leaving” and it’s like he says this to antagonize me. His ex-wife left him by surprise when he was away on business and never spoke to him again. Now I know why.
When I was postpartum I was having a hard time with a new baby and young child while he was away on business. I texted him about it and he responded by telling me I’m a c*nt and he takes screenshots of what I say to him. I don’t know how to ever trust him again after finding out my own husband would use private messages to hurt me.
I do not have a relationship with his family and a lot of this is his doing. His parents have a history of disastrous relationships and estrangements but my husband hasn’t helped the situation either. Early on in our marriage he was bad mouthing me to his parents. I saw a text where his sister told him she’d find him a pit bull attorney to go after me.
He is a functioning alcoholic and acts like a fool after two drinks. He is unable to make friends because of how he acts. He brags and boasts about himself. He talks about money and superficial things. He cannot read a room or figure out when to say something or when not to. I find myself cringing when I’m around him. He doesn’t have a single friend from high school or college.
He is controlling of me. I find myself 40 without any friends. My entire life I had plenty of friends and a social life. Not any more.
I dislike having sex with him. He only likes morning sex. There isn’t a connection. He wakes up with a boner and reaches for the woman next to him. I am very sexual and adventurous. We are a bad match.
Of course there’s the typical imbalance of emotional labor. I have to plan everything. I also have a FT job. Our salaries are very similar but of course my job isn’t respected by him as much. Even leaving the house requires me to pack the diaper bag, know the nap schedule etc. All he has to do is show up for a family vacation. I have to book everything, pack the kids clothes, buy the clothing. I have a sense of dread going on a family vacation and the list of buying flip flops, swim diapers, swimsuits, sunscreen, which car seat do we take on the airplane, sleeping arrangements for the kids at the hotel, scheduling the babysitter, boarding the dog etc. I feel like he using me.
But I have 2 kids. We live in a beautiful home in an upscale community. Life is comfortable. I seem to be the only miserable one. Maybe I’m just a miserable person?
Sometimes I think the only way I can get away unscathed is to leave. Without the kids. Just let him stay in this house and I leave.

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I always loved taking pictures of abandoned places. It was vacation and I decided to go to as many abandoned places as I could. I already visited three and it was amazing. They were An abandoned church, hospital and a swimmingpool. So for the fourth day I went to an abandoned factory. I saw some pictures of it on the dark website. It's easier to find buildings there than having to search for the once that are already well known. I actually only work with the dark website for these places. I am always very careful, check if the websites aren't dangerous and I never talk to anyone online.
When I went into the building the air was different. There was way more oxygen than outside and there was this weird smell. It reminded me of burning metal, ozone and gun powder. It was a factory that was partly burned down so I wasn't very surprised of the smell. Like always I sended my location to my friends and parents and started exploring the place.
After looking around for a bit I heard some noises. I didn't think much of it thinking that it would be some animals or just the wind. But it still made me feel uncomfortable. I can't describe what it was. I just blamed it on my paranoia and shook the feeling off. I started taking some pictures of the wilderness that found a way in the building and when I checked them the images were completely black. Except for one. At fiest sight it looked normal but when you looked closer there was this big shadow that fell over the place. I already got nervous but than I heard the sound again. This time it was way harder than before. It sounded like a dog barking but it was incredibly sharp and it sounded like it was slowed down. Suddenly it stopped as fast as it came. I definitely did not feel safe so I grabbed my things and made my way out of there.
But when I went outside of the building, I saw that it was already night. Which couldn't even be possible because I arrived there in the morning and only stayed here for only an hour. This wasn't the only strange thing though. There were no sounds, no chirping no wind, nothing. It was also weird that there were no stars in the sky and no clouds. I couldn't see a thing so I took my flashlight out of my bag. I looked around but I was to scared to move until that awful noise came back. Every few seconds it became louder and louder. Until the point when blood was coming out of my ears. I finally was able to run. But no matter where I went it followed me behind. Until the noise suddenly just stopped. I looked around searching for a way out of the woods but there wasn't enough light to see anything clearly. I wanted to keep moving until I saw something.
It was around two meters long, it's skin was gray and rotting away. The only hair it had were just a couple of black strands that came out of it's head. It also had two black dots as eyes and no mouth. But you still could see it smiling trough the wrinkles that formed on his face.
Surprisingly enough it did nothing. It just stayed there, looking at me. After what felt like hours, my flight response finally kicked in and I ran as hard as I possibly could. But before I knew it I was back at the factory. Before I could gather my thoughts my stomach dropped when I heard that sound again. That horrid creature stood right behind me. I turned around, looked up at it's face and the smell from inside the building hit me again. It split it's face open in two and made a horrible noise. Everything went black.
I opened my eyes and saw that I was in a hospital. I couldn't move at all. Next to me were my parents. When they saw that I was awake they started crying. Apparently I was in a terrible car accident and was in a coma for almost a year
Later I heard that the building I said I visited, never existed.

I'm 33. I never knew what to do with myself, never had a passion for something and I ended up in a field that I don't love but sometimes I enjoy. Money was ok.
8 months ago, I had a work accident, the company did support me only after I got a lawyer and only with the surgery cost - but it was all super expensive because I had to do it in a different country.
I spent months at home, alone, going out only for PT. I started work after 2 months super freaked out that I will get fired, my creativity was down and I couldn't work properly. PT got increasingly more challenging and I am tired all the time but I need to do it.
My dog got sick and it cost all my savings to save him.
My bf works 24/7 because he has a low paying job and his father has cancer and all money goes on his treatment. He doesn't take care of himself as in wears dirty clothes, doesn't take a shower etc, so we had 0 sex. When I did want to try again, I realised my endometriosis is back and I might need another surgery.
Also my mom's health is not good but she kinda hid it (now I feel bad for saving the dog) and she is exhausted from caring for my grandma (her mother in law) and father - who is super old fashioned and lazy. He does no chores and makes money only for house bills. My mom does all the heavy lifting.
I am so behind at work, so tired all the time probably because of the mental load, I go to therapy but I feel everything keeps getting worse. The work accident, then endometriosis and no sex cuz it hurts too bad, then the dog illness plus now I take care of it, my mom is not well and my dad is a lazy asshole, that I am also worried about because his health is shit. He is having a gold bladder removal tomorrow and I wouldn't be surprised if something this simple causes complications for him.
I used to have a mediocre life and go on a vacation a year, worry about easy stuff. Now I am in debt, with probably one more year of PT ahead for my knee and, everyone around me is sick too, even the dog.
I feel like there is no light in sight. I feel like crying when friends share photos from their vacations and walks on our group Whatsapp group.
What helped you go through difficult times in life? How did you keep your hope alive and had motivation to oush through?
No one is coming. There is no prince charming who will fall in love with me and get me out of this shithole. No rich connected friend who can offer me a better job. No miracle course that can get me a higher earning job in 6 months. I just need to stay focused and take it one at a time. But it's so damn hard. I don't know how to do it. I feel so alone and miserable and I want a good life for myself.

Kalvin yawned and stretched in the comfy turret seat. Rubbing his eyes he checked the video feed and froze. Unable to process the image on the screen.
A force easily ten thousand strong of various species lay keeled over and dead in the snow less than a thousand yards away from the walled dome. Their armored vehicles shattered to bits as though they'd been frozen then hit with a sledgehammer. Kalvin panned the turret across the quiet battlefield, eventually his vision landed on a single combatant that was still alive. Shivering not from cold it appeared, but fear of the statue wrought from ice before him.
Without a second thought, kalvin triggered the alarm.
...
Gretch sat in the blessedly warm interrogation room. Unable to forget the terrifying sequence of events from last night.
The human interrogator sat across from the small Goblin-like alien, making them flinch. The interrogator curiously looked at the alien before asking her main question.
"What happened last night, your entire force was obliterated without us hearing or seeing anything."
Gretch looked at the human woman in horror. Then the lone soldier in the corner that noone else seemed to acknowledge.
Gretch pointed at the human soldier, who grinned menacingly.
"Him! He took us all out! I swear he isn't human!! HE HAD A FUCKING DRAGON AT HIS SIDE! GET HIM AWAY FROM ME!"
The memories came rushing back, that humble, terrifying grin, the rifle that never seemed to run empty nor make any sound. How bullets and lasers simply passed through the lone human as he kept advancing.
The human interrogator turned to look at the indicated corner, seeing nothing and no one. Perhaps the subject across from her may not be mentally sound.
Frowning, the interrogator asked.
"Can you start from the beginning? Tell me what happened from the point you arrived until we brought you in."
Gretch took a deep breath, trying to ignore the spectre in the corner.
"Okay... Okay... we were hired by the Gravlostic mining company to run you off the planet..."
...
Gretch marched at the front of the formation, in lockstep with his brothers and sisters of the Smashgrab mercenary company. The domed wall of the town "frostguardia" lay glittering about ten thousand yards ahead of them.
The wind blew, kicking up a flurry of snow that obscured their vision of the wall for a moment. When the wind settled, a lone human stood guard halfway between them and the wall. Gretch raised a fist, bringing the company to a halt. Looking up at the turrets atop the outer wall, he noticed that all of them were still inactive. A message from the company commander buzzed in through his earpiece.
"What's the hold up gretch?"
Gretch watched in confusion as a furred creature bolted through the hard light barrier that marked the city's gate and came to the lone human's side.
Clearing his throat, gretch keyed his mic.
"There's a human and their dog... Or something... Standing in our way, I've got a bad feeling about this boss. Turrets aren't even active."
Raucous laughter assailed Gretch's ears as his commanding officer clearly didn't see how suspicious this was. However, Gretch's commander's laughter stopped abruptly as the wind picked up again.
"Tuuuuuuuurrrrrrnnnnnn baaaaacckkkk"
The ghostly words were as quiet as a whisper, yet they were heard loud and clear by everyone. Gretch heard his earpiece click and his commander's voice came through with a bit of a waver to it.
"You heard that too right?"
"Yessir... Should we turn back?"
A pause that stretched on far too long.
"No... No... Continue with the mission, there's a lot of credits on the line here."
Gretch nodded and waved the forces forward.
The lone soldier sighed, placing a hand on the furred creature's head before unslinging the rifle on their back. The wind howled as it blew with a renewed fury. The words carried within, a shout.

"SO BE IT, FACE THE FROST GUARD"

A roar split the heavens as the furred creature suddenly started to grow, and grow, and grow. the creaking of stretching bone and skin reaching the now advancing forces. The Beasts fur went from a light brown to pure ice white as massive wings unfurled from the beast's body. Shouts of surprise and apprehension rose from the mercenary company.
One merc who had an atgm launcher, knelt down and took aim at the massive furred beast as it began to charge towards them. Oblivious to the lone human who'd raised their rifle.
There wasn't a single crack, pop or bang as the back of the merc's head flowered open, the soldier behind them ripped in half with a scream being the only sound accompanying the carnage. Gretch felt his legs go limp and crumpled, just as the massive beast tore through their ranks, a razor sharp claw passing inches from his pointed ears.
Viscera flew, tanks and APCs were frozen solid by a beam of blue energy from the beast's mouth, before being shattered with a casual swipe of it's claws.
The lone human advanced a step and fired. The only sound from the discharge being the damage it caused. Each silent shot sending body parts flying and turning blood into a fine mist. Screams and shouts of terror erupting around Gretch's prone form.
After only a few minutes, it grew quiet. Gretch dared not move in case whatever this frost guard thing was, wasn't done yet.
After a few minutes, gretch uncovered his eyes and sat up. Looking at the carnage of what had once been a proud mercenary company. Then he turned around.
And screamed like a little human girl as he saw the statue of ice in front of him. Depicting that softly smiling, Silently shooting soldier. He stayed there until he was cuffed and brought into the city for interrogation.
...
The interrogator looked at the Goblin-like alien in front of her, eyes wide with genuine terror. Just now noticing the sound of claws scratching at the interrogation room's door.
Pressing a button the door swooshed open. Letting In the beige colored furred dragon.
Gretch took one look at the German shepherd sized beast before his eyes rolled into the back of his head and he passed out. The interrogator's brow furrowed, then she looked down at the town's local mascot, Fuzzy the furred dragon, And gasped.
Burn marks seared the furred dragons nigh indestructible fur. Pulling a small piece of dried meat from her treat pouch, she fed it to the good boy saying.
"That goblin seems to be really afraid of you boy."
The furred dragon's tale wagged as it chewed on the treat. Unbeknownst to the interrogator, commander Slate rubbed his best and longest friend's head making kissy noises and giving him praise. Speaking aloud despite the fact no one but the dragon would hear him.
"She doesn't know the half of it, isn't that right boy?"
The furred dragon gave a soft woof in agreeance. He liked being in his adult form instead of this limiting juvenile one, he had freezy breath as an adult! Slate chuckled, rubbing the furred dragons cheeks.
"I gotta get back to my post buddy, keep an eye on everyone for me."
And with a good bye pat between Fuzzy's ears he walked through the wall. The snowy winds no longer nipping at his skin as he existed within each and every one. Slinging his rifle back over his shoulder, he smiled as he saw the reaper approaching.
This time he didn't keep up the act.
"Commander Slate shall I-"
"Nope, I'm good, come see me when both me and my friend can go."
The grim reaper paused, jaw agape. Then, with a chuckle the reaper's face transformed into that of a young boy.
"Very well frost guardian. I'll see you then."
And with a gust of wind, the reaper was gone. Leaving a smiling, ghostly guardian to watch over the city.

Just back from a glorious 9 days in Rome. There's no other place like it and I felt so lucky to be able to go, My three initial aims in this trip were: (a) see my hometown hero Bruce Springsteen amongst my ancestral people (they literally sing along to not just the lyrics but the guitar riffs etc too) as well as (b) sink or swim as I continue to practice my Italian language skills (I've been taking lessons with a tutor for 2 years but there's nothing like just being thrown into the world of the language to sharpen up and get very comfortable conversing) and (c) do hours upon hours of photo walks (I ended up averaging 30k steps a day every day aside from the two sick days).
In brief, I split the trip up into two halves: the first half I stayed up on Avantino hill (it's very close to the Circo Massimo, so it was an easy spot for the concert) and the second half in a quiet pocket of Trastevere a block or two west of the river south of Ponte Paladino.My Avantino air bnb host gave me some great neighborhood places in nearby Testaccio (another wonderful neighborhood that tourists don't seem to wander into very much), and I found a fantastic and slightly quirky place for espresso also in Testaccio (I'm an espresso fiend).If you haven't been to Avantino, it almost reminded me of the Italian Beacon Hill (for those familiar with Boston).
It had the feeling of a Tuscan village that just happened to be somehow in the middle of Rome. It's where the famous key hole is that frames St. Peters, as well as the Giardino degli Aranci and Santa Sabina's, which is a gorgeous church from 422 AD. Staying here felt very relaxing and peaceful and even though some tourists did make their way to the keyhole every day, it had a very tranquil vibe, despite the fact that Circo Massimo was 5 minutes north and Testaccio was 5 minutes south.
Given that my favorite thing to do on vacation is just wander around with my Ricoh GR, I would begin every day in Avantino thusly:Get up, have an espresso at Tram Depot (always at the bar), walk around for a few hours and just see what I can find. Maybe I'd get a quick breakfast bite at the outstanding Casa Manco in the Testaccio market.
Then I'd go to for a big lunch at the wonderful Pecorino (also in Testaccio). This lunch would usually last an hour or two. It's a very cozy restaurant and the waiters are all very nice and so I'd often bring a book along with me or a notebook or I'd transfer pictures from my camera to my phone for editing in between courses. Lunch was often my largest meal of the day and sometimes my only "meal" of the day. (In normal life I train for marathons and am in the gym often and I'm super on top of my macros and making sure I get X amount of protein etc...on this trip, this was not the case.)
If I couldn't get into Pecorino for lunch or didn't end up in that area for lunch time, I'd either go there for dinner when they opened, or another excellent Testaccio spot called Perilli's. (There's also Piato Romano, which had excellent food but not quite the same cozy ambience as Pecorino.) I pretty much mainlined Amatriciana and Carbonara along with involtini, braised oxtail, and as much tiramisu as I could politely hurl into my maw. I like establishing some routines or rituals when I travel, especially when I travel solo, to help give the trip some grounding. It's also nice when you are far from home to be able to walk into a place where people begin to recognize you and accept you into their little circle, even if it is temporary.
For the second half of the trip in Trastevere...I got COVID! Sort of. The day after the concert, I noticed a heavy feeling in my upper airway/chest, but I figured it must have been all the second hand smoke I inhaled during the concert (from my observations, Romans thoroughly enjoy cigarettes). I wear an oura ring and while my HRV was low, nothing else stood out. That night though I developed a fever and spent the entire next day in bed. I was bummed, but frankly, after 5 nights in a row of being out from 8am to midnight, I needed a rest day anyway, so it wasn't bad timing. (How's that for spin?)
Not sure what my actual temperature was, but my oura ring said I was 4.3 degrees above my nightly average baseline, so I'm guessing my temperature was around 100-101 as my normal temperature on a thermometer seems to be around 96.6. I spent a good chunk of the next day in bed also, just napping (which was fairly pleasant as the cool breeze came in through the window, carrying the sounds of the three churches on Avantino, not to mention the bird calls and the pleasing sounds of people enjoying their meals on the street below). My baseline temp deviation was only +2 degrees the second night and by the end of the day, I felt good enough to have an appetite, but not quite good enough to stand upright, so I ordered some Trapizzino on uber eats (the polpetti/sugo and the melanzane were both glorious) and that revived me. By the next morning I was better!(In the end, I think this was covid because while I only had the fever for the two sick days, I lost most of my sense of smell sometime Thursday afternoon despite feeling fine. So maybe Covid? In the end, I missed out on a trip to Ostia Antica and a food tour, but the trip still felt extremely full of experiences.)
The rest of my time in Trastevere was great. Just wandering all around those crazy little winding streets, snapping away, always fueled by a caffè from the gruff but character-rich Bar San Calisto or the one across from my apartment, which was called "404 Name Not Found." I did eat lunch one day at Da Enzo which was good but not sure it's worth the hype given how much excellent food I had at restaurants with very little fanfare.
Da Enzo ended up being a great experience though because when they asked me how many and I said, "da solo," they asked if I would share the table if there was another single. I said sure, and ended up being paired up with a fellow endurance athlete, this one from France. Just one of the many fanciful moments that can happen when you travel solo. We also hung out again the next day for most of the morning and afternoon, and this was a sort of theme for my trip: running into people left and right, connecting, and making fast friends.
This is how I found myself getting invited to a Roman birthday party at the Piazza Testaccio one night for what felt like my 10th "out past midnight" night of the trip (again, a far cry from my normal life of "in bed at 9").In the end, what I will take away from this trip are a few things:
-the magic of learning a second language, and noticing your skills improving with every chat. Just the pleasure of hearing the Italian language and getting to practice it all day, every day (while making many mistakes). If you're going to Rome or Italy in general, I highly recommend you try and get yourself up to A2 in Italian. It's such a pleasurable language to speak and embrace, even if it's just at a beginner's level.
-the many conversations I had with shop owners or fellow bar patrons and the high-five I would give myself in my head when they would ask "if you're American, how come your accent is so good?" (Again, I'm a B1 speaker on my best day, but the compliment would always make my day given my beginner's nervousness at the start of the trip). A few times, people even just began talking to me, assuming I was Italian. (I am Italian-American, but having a Roman just start talking to you as one of their own meant a lot to the part of me that loves being Italian and feels a strong connection to the country, even from afar.)
-The Italian crowd at the Bruce show. Just a blast to sing along with them into the Roman sky, surrounded by ruins.-Mornings in Avantino spent in quiet contemplation in Santa Sabina or St Anselmo. A few times, the respective organists were practicing and I got my own concert.-After my two days sick in bed, when I returned to the Tram Depot and Casa Manco for sustenance, the proprietors both asked me one version or another or "tutto bene?" (as if to say, where ya been?). The man at Casa Manco blurted out "buon tornato!" when he saw me approach. Very warm-hearted people and they made me feel at home (along with the Pecorino staff, who were very kind to me and likely a little amused, wondering, why is this random American dude here every day eating for 2 hours?)
-A basic observation: I appreciated how people across seemingly different walks of life all talk to each other as equals. I saw street sweepers chatting with businessmen in the street in a way that would seem less likely in America. Maybe this is a class thing? Perhaps the gap in salaries is not so large like it is in America, and therefore people feel like one giant middle class together? Related: many younger Italians I spoke to told me how hard it was to live in Rome as a young person, as salaries were not very good, and unless you had 1-2 roommates or parents who could pay your rent, you would most likely have a longer commute coming into the city every day.
-The fact that behind every nook and cranny and around every corner, there is something spectacular to see. Whether it's the ruins that stand adjacent to the jewish ghetto in a reminder of the layers upon layers of civilizations that once existed in this city, or just the way the morning light creates a shaft down some medieval cobblestone street, it is a magical place to walk around. By the end of each very long day, my mind was just fried, both from working overtime with trying to speak Italian and from the sheer overstimulation of seeing so much beauty.
Anyway, this was not my first trip to Rome, but it was my first trip in MANY years, and it was precisely the life affirming and humanity affirming trip I needed this year after a rough and precarious start to 2023. Next trip, I will likely fly into Rome, spend 3-ish days there, and then head somewhere to the southern coast. As much as I love Roman food, it would be nice to be inundated with fresh sardines the same way this trip found me OD'ing on carbonara.
To me, this trip really captured the beauty of solo travel: I had plenty of experiences to enjoy my own company, but in my efforts to engage with the language and culture, I was eager to seek out interactions, and many of those interactions lead to further interactions. Whether it was helping an older Italian woman find the church she was looking for and the ensuing 20 minute conversation in Italian as we navigated, or wandering into a green juice place in Rome and expressing my shock and appreciation at the sight of vegetables to the owner that lead into a conversation about my union's current strike or finding an amazing children's book store while searching for a gift for my nephew and talking to the owner of the shop about books for an hour, just seeking ways to meaningfully engage and having a curiosity about the people and places I encountered really made for an enriching solo travel experience, because as Rolf Potts points out, had I been with a friend on this trip, we would have created our own bubble, and this bubble would have kept others out.
This being a solo travel sub, I will say that there's always that early part of the trip where you feel alone and disoriented after arriving in a new place after flying all night, like, "ah maybe I should have broken the trip up, or not made for such a long stay, etc" but whenever I felt that way in the early day and a half, I would just force myself to engage more fully with the world around me. Remember, the satisfaction of this kind of travel comes in the context of being outside your comfort zone, and the area outside that zone can be a little uncomfortable! But by the end, I didn't want to leave. And that's for me where the real magic of travel is.
Anyway, thank you to Rome and it's people for one of the best times in my 39 years.(If anyone is curious, I'll be posting many photos from this trip at my IG@ rovinglumix.